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[–] vivalafreakshow 0 points 18 points (+18|-0) ago 

This is so true, can't understand why more couples don't just talk to each other and actually work on fixing issues instead of play the blame game.

I've been with my bf for 10 years soon, we are getting married on our 10 year anniversary, and I was 16 he was 17 when we started going out. The fact that we have had to talk trough shit and deal with our feelings has been hard but rewarding. I am sure that we will be together til death do us part because we care enough to work things out.

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[–] Rotteuxx 0 points 10 points (+10|-0) ago  (edited ago)

I'd say most people don't want to put effort in making a relationship work because the grass always looks greener on the other side of the fence. What these types of people don't realize is the amount of work that went in to maintaining that green grass.

In our day and age of instant gratification & satisfaction, working things out and compromising is becoming an alien concept. Can't forget that tons of people born in the 80s and after have witnessed their parents or friends parents go straight for a divorce instead of counselling when their relationships hit a rough patch... In my case, professional pipe dreams screwed up the family unit and both my parents regretted it dearly with time.

For myself, its the one trait I look for the most. I've burned myself out trying to build relationships with women who didn't believe in investing in it for long term prosperity and quite frankly, after a while it takes its toll.

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[–] vivalafreakshow 0 points 7 points (+7|-0) ago 

I can understand that. Part of the reason we waited this long to get married was too be sure divorce wouldn't be a thing a year or two after we married. We have been engaged since 9 years back though and had we not been so young we would probably have married sooner.

It's sad that people go into a marriage, a life long commitment of love, care and respect whether you are religious or not, thinking we can just divorce if it doesn't work out. Marriage should mean something not just be a thing that you do.

As for relationships its just sad that people won't make an effort to keep it a happy healthy relationship. To many are focused on themselves entirely and only their feelings and needs are highlighted.

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[–] LightAsFeathers 0 points 4 points (+4|-0) ago 

I've started telling people "the grass is greener where you water it."

You're absolutely right. Instant gratification. It's easier to dump someone and start over in the honeymoon phase, rather than actually work things out.

I've heard so many people say that marriage would come up "if it gets serious." Whatever happened to dating with the intent of marriage? When does a relationship suddenly "get serious" ?

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[–] welcome_to_voat 0 points 1 points (+1|-0) ago 

Toll fyi

Just trying to help

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[–] Nofatpeople 0 points 11 points (+11|-0) ago 

That's what I want, i don't care if it is in style or not.

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[–] Kal 0 points 8 points (+8|-0) ago 

I like what you do on voat. It's nice to know there is still marriage material out there somewhere.

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[–] greyhunter4 0 points 6 points (+6|-0) ago 

There's some study I read that says women who are independent with their own jobs are more likely to leave if there are any issues in a relationship. If they don't have their own job or means to get by they'll try harder to make it work.

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[–] witchy_Woahman 0 points 6 points (+6|-0) ago 

Full belly, empty balls. let's go people.

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[–] Fragnostus 0 points 3 points (+3|-0) ago 

Wow, that is just so beautiful! Saving this one.

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[–] Funkypurplekitty 0 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago 

Mine will have their 31 anniversary this summer. Not sure how much they have fixed in their marriage though. More like well it's kinda broke lets put a patch on it, or we can just pretend it's not a problem for a while.

I'm realizing just staying together it's the best goal. But that's why I'm here to try to do better than they have.

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[–] Mr_Sir 0 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago 

This hits close to home

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[–] Empress [S] 0 points 3 points (+3|-0) ago  (edited ago)

Tough it out. There's always a way to make it work. 💙

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[–] Mr_Sir 0 points 1 points (+1|-0) ago 

Almost a year too late, but next time around!

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