Archived As a husband - how do I handle it when my wife won't listen to me. (TraditionalWives)
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Archived As a husband - how do I handle it when my wife won't listen to me. (TraditionalWives)
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[–] Le_Squish 0 points 2 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago
You guys have had a long time to establish bad habits. Seems like there was no checks and balances between you two so small problems that could have been overcome in the past are now stains and sources of bitterness.
First things first, you have to talked to her to see if she wants to save the relationship. In her mind, she may have demoted you to roommate or manchild and is just hanging around because of co-dependency. No matter how you feel, relationships require all parties to participate and there is no path forward without her willingness to try.
If she's on board to start working on the marriage. Get a counselor and specifically work on building trust. She doesn't trust your leadership and that is why she resist. Just like you don't trust her to keep the household running smoothly.
At the root of is that both of you are passive and there was a lot of accommodating when there were valid reasons to be making a fuss, starting an argument and correcting behavior.
I'm pretty sure that if you can reestablish trust, your wife will happy defer to you.
[–] Scruffy_Nerfherder [S] 0 points 1 point 1 point (+1|-0) ago
Thank you