Archived As a husband - how do I handle it when my wife won't listen to me. (TraditionalWives)
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Archived As a husband - how do I handle it when my wife won't listen to me. (TraditionalWives)
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[–] 8145098? 0 points 3 points 3 points (+3|-0) ago
Gah, that sucks. Your wife sounds a lot like my brother's.
My husband and I had a power struggle several years ago and it was brutal. We went to counseling and not sure if it helped that much but what it did do was taught us to be more introspective. I learned that I had to stop trying to change him and look inward and what I found wasn't awesome.
I realized that I was looking to him to make the relationship work and wasn't putting forth my best effort. I acknowledged that my casual wine drinking had become problematic, resulting in a seriously bad attitude. My approach was to work on myself and stop focusing on his problems. Went to AA and got a sponsor and worked the steps and that was when our marriage started to improve significantly.
Guess what I want to know is whether either or both of you have been drinking, or not?
[–] Scruffy_Nerfherder [S] 0 points 1 point 1 point (+1|-0) ago
She doesn't and I don't till I do. Of course my 'heavy' drinking is moderate drinking for everyone else. I'll get buzzed but not drunk. When she makes a rum and coke however she tips the bottle of rum over a full glass of coke and lets the fumes settle into the coke, but that's about it.
[–] 8145586? 0 points 2 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago
I'd be interested to see what would happen if you cut out drinking for six months. If nothing else, it will clear your head to think about some serious decisions you may have to make.