I hope it is okay to introduce myself. I've been lurking here for ages and thought I might finally start contributing. Mostly I'd just love to know about you and make a connection. I live inside the beltway where true SAHMs are scarce. SAHMs are very rare here anyway and most of them have au pairs or nannies, cooks, housekeepers - so they are not really homemakers. I am very old fashion and always have been. I can't relate to most of my contemporaries and I know they have trouble relating to me.
So I am 45, married 23 years. Four children. We home school and one is off to a military academy, same his father attended. Sorry for the brag, if you can't tell I am very proud. My husband is the Captain of this ship and I wouldn't have it any other way.
My passion in our home is our food. I love to garden and then can and preserve our bounty. We supplement with CSA and farmers market. We buy whole animals and my husband loves to hunt. I've always wanted my childrens memory of home to be the smell of lovely home cooked meals. It has worked too, my son tells us he almost misses the food more than us - we both think he actually misses the food more. I also like to crochet and embroider. I have been into fussy old lady hobbies since I was a little girl.
What is your favorite part of day to day homemaking?
I'd rather spend time with family than friends so most of my "friends" are the wives of my husband's colleagues. They treat me with this veiled condescending pity and sometimes contempt. I frequently get asked what I am going to do when my husband leaves me since I have no skills and nothing to fill out a resume. I always get unsolicited advice on how to work part time and make myself more desirable. When I answer that I have many desirable skills useful to my family they laugh and say they do everything I do plus work full time. Which we all know is utter BS. Funnily enough one of them told me to stop sending home canned goods and fresh baked treats to my husbands firm because her husband basically told her he was jealous and wished she would be more domestic. I did my best not to laugh and offered her my cookie recipe. She hasn't spoken to me since.
Do you encounter anything like this? I worry sometimes that younger homemakers will be treated this way and feel bullied by peer pressure.
Their rudeness is also what made me realize I need to chat with women who are more like myself.