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[–] sakuramboo 0 points 12 points (+12|-0) ago 

A foot massage can go a long way.

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[–] Vvswiftvv17 0 points 9 points (+9|-0) ago 

Or simply offering to take over an evening chore. Doing dinner dishes, or taking the lead on getting the kids to bed (which is different than asking a million questions on how to get the kids in bed - don't keep running back to her asking what to do next. Just figure it out. She needs a hands off break).

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[–] Sosacms 0 points 6 points (+6|-0) ago 

Then cuddle nap. Everyone could use a good cuddle nap recharge.

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[–] seeking_virtue [S] 0 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago 

Yes, that's a good one too!

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[–] Liber 0 points 0 points (+0|-0) ago 

So can a blowjob.

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[–] totes_magotes 0 points 10 points (+10|-0) ago  (edited ago)

Not always. I had an ex who was chronically depressed and suffered from crippling anxiety due to her outright refusing to do anything with herself. Literally, her cleaning a room or fixing herself something to eat was something I was expected to praise her for.

Now, to be fair, she was legally blind. But she literally let that get in the way of everything she did. Writing, resume, drinking her coffee, cleaning a counter, just stepping out of bed.

Mind you, never once did I complain about helping her, driving her somewhere, guiding her as she walked in unfamiliar places. Hell, I kept the house clean more than she did. That was required. And while she was blind, she had enough sight to be able to read (legally blind, totally blind in most lighting scenarios). And I learned how to squint, manipulate my vision so that I saw what she saw. Never told her I did that until years after we split.... she almost broke into tears because no one had ever tried to understand her disability to the point of trying to do that. Hell, he father denied she had any disability and her mother always told her "You can't do that."

But she could never get past her own vision. So she was always depressed, anxious and tired.

I used to do what you suggested. It just made things worse for her.

The real advice here is to know your wife. Know what will help her out. Know what will perk her up. Know how to talk and make her feel proud.

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[–] seeking_virtue [S] 0 points 6 points (+6|-0) ago 

The real advice here is to know your wife. Know what will help her out. Know what will perk her up. Know how to talk and make her feel proud.

Nailed it

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[–] RoundWheel 0 points 1 points (+1|-0) ago 

Exceptions don't make the rule.

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[–] Scruffy_Nerfherder 2 points -2 points (+0|-2) ago 

Shut up

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[–] bob3333 0 points 6 points (+6|-0) ago 

How do you know what she did today without asking?

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[–] Sosacms 0 points 4 points (+4|-0) ago  (edited ago)

When in doubt, play it safe and just say she must have had a busy day. She'll probably list it of for you.

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[–] SyriansAreTerrorists 1 points 4 points (+5|-1) ago 

Sat on the couch, watched tv, ate a microwaved frozen meal,

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[–] seeking_virtue [S] 0 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago 

Well if there was laundry and bows there's none

Perhaps if there is dinner or the bathroom is a bit cleaner?

I'm not saying don't ask, but take some time to observe first right lad?

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[–] Scruffy_Nerfherder 0 points 4 points (+4|-0) ago 

My, the couch looks extra dented Today! Good job!

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[–] bdmthrfkr 0 points 3 points (+3|-0) ago 

While this may seem like sage advice on the face of it DON'T EVER DO THIS!!!

A tired woman is just going to vent and explain to you all of the things that YOU didn't do to help around the house. She will be specific about it too which will probably make you angry and lead to some cross words being said. This conversation never ends well.

Best is to cook her dinner or, as @Vvswiftvv17 suggested, do one of the chores around the house. If it is a real emergency duck back out of the door and go buy some flowers, she won't be thinking of her shitty day after you surprise her with something nice. Flowers always work but just like any drug need to be used sparingly.

Otherwise she just thinks that you are cheating on her.

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[–] VaginalCanal 0 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago 

This is great advice. I'm definitely going to implement this.

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[–] Draurgothoth 0 points 1 points (+1|-0) ago  (edited ago)

But if I don't know what she has done how will I compliment her?

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[–] seeking_virtue [S] 0 points 1 points (+1|-0) ago 

That's a great question!

Here are some options lad:

--your wife likely follows a routine, taking care your your laddie, or household. Praise her in what you know she likely did--even if it a routine deal. Shopping, washing up laddie, bushing teeth, whatever the routine includes. Thank her for it before she tells you about it.

"I know you did such and such, we really needed it done and it helps because..."

-ask your laddie what mom did for him, he'lll clue you in on all kinds of treasures you can express gratitude to you wife for. The little ones have good bits here.

hope that helps. We can talk more if needed.

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