My SO and I have a mutual friend who is, let's just say, a bit devoid of manners when around people. He is a bit of a beta but after meeting his family, we see why. He has had no real strong male role models and his role models are passive, in their own heads and 'soft', for lack of a better term. He is quite rude at the dinner table, belching, snorting, blowing his nose while people are having dinner conversation. It's quite distracting. His appearance is that of a guy who sees what is masculine but is lackluster in real life preparation. unbrushed hair, ungroomed facial hair and does not shower often.
He is also 6' 3", only works out his arms and admits not doing much physical labor. Bear in mind he is also quite cerebral and has low self-confidence. He and some other men got together to do some work at a local church and he really liked it, which is hopeful.
He could really be something if he made some minor improvements to his mannerisms. The issue is, how does one approach the subject, if at all? Should the men approach it? Is it acceptable for women to make any comment? The last thing I want to do is put him in an embarrassing position in the presence of others and cut him down. Also, what can we women, on the outside looking in, do to help? Where do you think would be good places to support him? We see he doesn't have a mate, and it's no wonder, is this a dual effort between our spouses and us?
Thanks for reading. Take good care.