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[–] Eyevory 0 points 3 points 3 points (+3|-0) ago
This is more common than you might think. A lot of guys can finish once, but that second time TAKES. FOR. EVER. (yes I know forever is one word)
One thing you can do is stop fapping. Reserve yourself for occasions where you are having legitimate sex with a woman, and that will (over time) naturally adjust your system because biologically your DNA still has a desire to spread your seed. However the second orgasm each time will always take much longer than the first - that is simply a biological issue which you cannot really control.
The thing about fapping is that the pressure on your penis is always much greater than any woman can provide, so ultimately you get used to that amount of pressure and nothing else can really compare. Thus by removing that sensation from the equation and waiting until you are with a woman, it will somewhat reset your system. You also can experiment to find the angle or motion that works best for you. I dated a woman who could only have an orgasm if she was on top, while I always finished easier and quicker if I was behind. However the girl I dated prior to her it was always easier for me to finish in missionary because she had a habit of pressing her thighs together which added pressure to just the right place. So really it varies depending upon the woman and until you are with someone a few times and experiment you might not find the proper angle, position, or pressure.
The other thing to consider is what type of protection you used. Since you just met this girl, I hope you were using a condom - and condoms can easily desensitize you making it take much longer. If the condom has a spermicidal lubricant or some other unique additive, that can impact the sensation to you. So experiment with other types of condoms - other brands, other lubricant types, other fits... and find one that feels better. Then keep in mind once you are in a committed relationship where you don't have to worry about STDs and you know she is on birth control, you can hopefully go without condoms which will most likely allow you to finish faster and more frequently.
Also if you are worried about embarrassing the woman don't worry about it. Women sometimes have to fake it just as guys sometimes have to fake it - we've all done it, but really it is ok to just not finish sometimes.
[–] Deathchild95 0 points 1 point 1 point (+1|-0) ago
I can't see any possible way to answer the question better than this guy did.