Social Justice Warriors believe that everyone deserves to be safe from criticism and respected as human beings - even if they for one reason or another can't accept their own gender, social status or own shortcomings. We should care for people and protect their feelings, even if they cause their own misery. Who is part of this group: Tumblr, Ellen Pao (and reddit), HAES...
The meritocracy (for lack of better term), like the people over at v/fph are the opposite - they care nothing for who people are, they only want to know what you can do and offer back to society. They see a fatty whose only achievement in life is to post pitiful stuff on Tumblr as the epitome of human failure - someone who can't even keep their own body healthy. You can be a Nobel-winning scientist or a child - for the meritocracy the only things that matters is what you have achieved, what you're doing for the greater good right now and your future potential to contribute to society or yourself in the way to becoming a better person. Who is part of this group: FPHers, the hacker community, most people who are business-oriented, the scientific community...
So as you see these are two complete opposites and chances are that, being radically different ideologies, both sides can as well keep going at each other forever. Their views are incompatible so no amount of discussion or evidence will make them speak the same language or give ground.
At one point I identified myself as a FPHer - mostly because back then posts were a lot funnier, but I also identified with the merit-based approach and though I was doing good to some hambeast somewhere that was reading the comments and deciding to shape up. But now that I see posts on Voat everyday about FPH or SJWs it's pretty clear to me that the community is stuck in a loop and it's not a constructive discussion anymore - it's just walking around in circles like children playing "I shot you" "Did not" "Did too" "Did not", ad eternum.
So my serious question is: is there any way to reach common ground between the two extremes? How can this discussion move forward? What ideas and actions are relevant in this context? Are there other groups involved that could make a difference today? Where do you think things are going to evolve from here?
Also feel free to correct me or add to my post in any way - I certainly don't claim to hold the only truth about what is happening or to understand it perfectly.