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[–] dabork 0 points 11 points (+11|-0) ago 

She's an awful person and she's manipulating the shit out of you and her boyfriend. You are also being unfaithful to your own girlfriend and betraying her trust in you. She may know that you're hanging out with this girl but she doesn't know you have these strong feelings for her and I can guarantee she wouldn't approve if she has any respect for herself. You owe it to yourself, your mental health, and your other relationships in life to get this cunt as far away from you as you can. You will never gain any true happiness with her because she knows she can play you like a fiddle.

You literally have nothing to gain in this situation but heartbreak so make it easy on yourself, be a man, sack up, and get the fuck over this bitch. It really is that easy. Get a hobby, go volunteer, do something with your time. But whatever you do, don't throw your whole fucking life away getting some bullshit revenge or wasting your whole life chasing after a girl you will never fully have.

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[–] 1WinfieldBlue 0 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago 

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[–] xThrowawayAccountx [S] 1 points -1 points (+0|-1) ago 

I've fucked 15 girls since she left me. Some prettier than her even by my standards. Ive dated a few.

I started going to school again last summer. I work a second job now.

I did all of this to distract myself from her. Obviously it isn't working.

What hobbies? I'm hoping in my car this weekend and just driving to the end of America. Driving keeps me somewhat sane.

If I can't have her back, I just want to make sure i tried my best.

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[–] 1WinfieldBlue 0 points 8 points (+8|-0) ago 

Cut her out of your life completely (dont go and see the movie with her) and go and see a councilor. It took me a while to get over my ex as well, when i was around your age my relationship ended after 4yrs, dude i know it fkn sucks ALOT but the best thing is to move on and don't go making stupid deals you'll regret with the devil.

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[–] xThrowawayAccountx [S] 0 points 0 points (+0|-0) ago 

Thank you.

I have to see her tonight. I hate myself enough right now without throwing away opportunities of temporary happiness. It drives her new bf mad that she sees me. I revel in that.

Why does she see me if she doesn't feel anything? Maybe I have a chance.

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[–] LOOK_AT_MY_POT 0 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago 

Why does she see me if she doesn't feel anything?

Because you are willing to let her cuck you. she still gets all the emotional support and love from you, and then goes home to fuck the guy she really wants. She's having her cake and eating it too. He probably fucks her extra hard when she gets home from hanging out with you. She's using you to make him jealous.

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[–] xwwarriorx 0 points 1 points (+1|-0) ago 

It drives her new bf mad that she sees me.

If she is ok with treating her current BF like this and doing something that she knows upsets him, what makes you think she will treat you any differently or any better than that?

Best advice here IMHO is cut and run.

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[–] 1WinfieldBlue 0 points 1 points (+1|-0) ago 

Probably cause she's not happy...not with you or her current bf, get the fuck out of there man! you're making it harder on yourself. I've been there, i know, just get out and go and get some help from a councilor.

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[–] Runaway-White-Slave 0 points 3 points (+3|-0) ago  (edited ago)

Definitely quit seeing her and making out with her. Wtf she's "moved on" with some other dude living with her, yet you've debased yourself by making out with her? Big mistake, she'd have you and him both arguing over who gets to fuck her when if she could. Sounds like a scum-fuck whore.

I wouldn't worry about him at all, unless he seems really cool you might want to warn him she's being a whore. Other than that as long as you interact with her you're fucking up, you've demonstrated to her you're somewhat "cool" with being her toy on the side, even if you didn't fuck her. She'll never give that ground up or let you live it down, and she'll not respect you anytime soon if ever again.

Cut ties entirely move on, drive a block around that address if you have to on the way to and from work, "therapy" is overrated though, a lot of the attachment has to do with age and amount of time you were with her. Your hopes, dreams, & future were tied up on this girl, it's understandable that 6 months out it's still sore, would be understandable if it were a years of so given the context. Don't know how smart you were immediately picking up another girlfriend, if she's cool you're lucky, but she might just be playing into emotions your x stirred up. You might just be projecting all that you'd built up in you mind and emotionally with that first love with the new one.

Should always have cool down/reflection period after a serious breakup. Often people who breakup and move right on to the quickest replacement just wind up with a duplicate of what they had, only it's likely to be as bad or worse. Anyway, obviously you need to work on yourself, if you're new girl is awesome great, work with it, but as quickly as you got a new girlfriend you need to seriously question yourself on that and whether or not you were ready.

But yeah, leave the bitch alone, she doesn't respect you and would have you entirely CUCKOLD, and once you've really cut the shit off, no more making out, don't be surprised if it takes you a year or so to fully get over it and move on in a healthy manner. Oh and real dick-move cheating on your new girlfriend by making out with the old ho-bag.

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[–] xThrowawayAccountx [S] 0 points 0 points (+0|-0) ago 

Thanks man. I'm sorry, I needed to hear that.

Still. Fuckkkkkkkkkk.

I'll relog on my main account and stop bitching. I'll check back in later

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[–] FemaleVet4Trump 0 points 3 points (+3|-0) ago 

I'm going through something similar. You have to keep firm boundaries. No more blurring the limits. No movies. No making out. No calls/texts of support.

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[–] bdmthrfkr 0 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago 

Your main problem here is that she broke the ultimate trust in your relationship. She left you. Even if you got back together how could you count on her to stick it out when times get hard?

I had a real bad one about 15 years ago (we were engaged) and later on she admitted to only breaking up with me because she wanted to make me do something (better bargaining position). Unfortunately as much as we tried after that it never worked ever again. I am now happily married to the perfect woman and have 2 awesome boys, she is still single. It is always so hard to see your way through when you are still in the tunnel but you just have to have faith in yourself that you will make it out.

TL;DR Ditch her.

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[–] xThrowawayAccountx [S] 0 points 0 points (+0|-0) ago 

Is your new girl as pretty?

Why the fuck does that have to matter, idk. But it for some reason does a lot.

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[–] bdmthrfkr 0 points 0 points (+0|-0) ago 

Lol, that ALWAYS matters!!!

She was at the time but that was a tall order. My ex was 6' tall, perfect model figure, ice blue eyes etc, etc, etc.

I ran across some good advice a while ago (last episode of Pure Pwnage) and it want something like this:

Q: What's the best way to deal with girl trouble?

A: More girls!!!

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[–] Bill_Murrays_Sandals 0 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago 

Whatever you do, do NOT use the gun that you recently bought on this guy. You will regret it the rest of your life. It is NOT worth it and it'll not help your pain.

Regardless of how much you hate him, do NOT murder him.

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[–] xThrowawayAccountx [S] 0 points 0 points (+0|-0) ago 

Well if I shot myself right after, there wouldn't be pain.

I get your point though. I've been just going thru day to day motions for half a year now. I still hate life. If I'm not getting drunk or high, I'm miserable.

You think I should just off myself if anything? Why. It's partly his fault, he should at least go with me.

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[–] LOOK_AT_MY_POT 1 points 0 points (+1|-1) ago 

It isn't his fault. That's some victim mentality bullshit. It's your fault. You weren't good enough, so she left you. Then she found a better guy. Him having more to offer than you do isn't evil on his part. If you're gonna shoot anyone, do the world a favor and make it yourself. Killing someone else because you are a failure of a human being is not gonna solve anything. Get better at life and steal her back. Work out, get more money, get your shit together, and then show her that she was wrong to leave. But right now, from what I've seen of you, she was right to leave. You're a whiny little manchild, no woman wants that.

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[–] leavethebag 0 points 1 points (+1|-0) ago 

You sound like a tool. She knows you want her and she'll probably use you. I've seen it happen. Now you either cut off the toxic part or you get even worse. The choice is yours. Whatever you do don't get close to her, that's when women can control men the best.

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[–] Bilbo_Swaggins 0 points 0 points (+0|-0) ago 

She's clearly not that special. You're getting yourself psyched up over someone because of the cognitive bias in favor of what-was.

Similarly I passed up an attractive, traditional, intelligent woman who was interested in me just because I wasn't over my ex. In hindsight this was stupid, utterly stupid, and I'd be happier if I didn't let my own cognitive biases get in my way.

Reflect on her flaws and then ask yourself whether all that is worth killing for.

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