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[–] Tester1027 0 points 4 points (+4|-0) ago 

Yes mam! I am getting better, I am just conditioned by life experiences to somehow always take things upon myself and not be there for me. Lol, if that makes sense...

Quick to forgive others, but truly I have had to work hard on forgiving myself, not because I did awful things, but rather because I choose to be hard on myself.

Furthermore a balance between the two is best I think, but balancing that reality with tenderness is always a challenge.

I genuinely try to be consistent and I kid you not, what you see is what you get.

So sometimes being hard on yourself is good as it produces character, but unchecked and based on emotions and unforgiving or just being a perfectionist can cause hiccups for sure.

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[–] RightHandOfTheGoat0 [S] 0 points 3 points (+3|-0) ago 

When you screw up big time, that's when you need to support yourself. When you hear that voice in your head explaining why you're an idiot, you need to tell yourself that you don't need to beat yourself up, you already understand that you messed up. Cut yourself some slack so you can do better next time. The goal should be to improve, not make yourself afraid to ever try. Every successful person ever has believed in themselves. Often more than anyone else.