I finally sat down and wrote a guide for online dating. There are definitely some sections that I want to refine, but I'm fairly happy with it for now. You can find the guide here.
I will also provide a brief summary (and teaser) below.
Your online dating profile should represent who you are right now and leave visitors with a desire to know more about you (which will motivate them into sending you messages).
Three of the ten guidelines provided in this section are:
Don't post any pictures that feature you holding alcohol, where you are inside a bar, or club
Avoid the bedroom or bathroom selfie
Include a subtle body shot in lieu of a blatant "look at me in a bikini" photo by having a friend snap a shot of you in a fitted dress or during a hike with friends.
Interests, Hobbies, Books, Movies, and Music
The post breaks down each of these subjects and gives you a new way to go about filling them in. For example, under the Books heading I suggest only listing any books that you are currently reading. This saves you the hassle of trying to remember your all time favorite novels, and it gives gentlemen looking at your profile something more interesting to read than (yet another) long list of books that provide no context or insight into the woman's personality.
What I'm Looking For
Be careful what you say here, as well as how you say it.
Take advantage of this opportunity, don't let it go to waste.
The post covers many topics dealing with messaging. If I could only share one idea with you it would be this:
Respond to every message. Doesn't matter if you have no interest in dating the guy. Doesn't matter if his message was rude, suggestive, or completely out of line. Every single one of those men took the time to message you. So even if all he spent was just five seconds typing out "wanna screw?" - You should reply with a short message. Be polite, direct, and if someone continues to hassle you - simply block them.
Rules and Boundaries
Establish a set of personal rules and always adhere to them. I never had a bad experience with online dating, and I attribute that largely to how much time I spent messaging before actually going on a date, and always following certain rules.
The Bottom Line
Online dating is a valuable tool, but you will benefit if you are willing to invest time, effort and maintain patience.
Hopefully this, admittedly brief, summary piques your interest enough to follow the link and check out the actual post.
Questions, comments, concerns and observations are both welcomed and encouraged.
Take care everyone.