I was looking at some of the posts over at askTRP, when I saw this thread:
“There are a couple situations Ive come to on a regular basis which I never know how to react to.
1.) I want to have sex really bad with my girlfriend I try kissing her neck, getting her in the mood etc. she keeps stopping me, I get frustrated.
2.) I joke around/flirt with a woman and she takes it the wrong way and tries to cause a scene.
3.) Something is bothering me in my relationship, I make my SO aware of it, she hardly response. I get pissed and walk away from the situation she just tries to fall asleep and not deal with it. I want to deal with it and get it out of the way. She would rather not deal with it right away.
4.) I say something and my girlfriend looks at me like Im stupid or talks down to me like Im stupid. How do you handle these types of situations without causing an argument?
I know a lot of your are going to say "break up with her" but I dont think that is always the solution there are ways to deal with things properly in an alpha type way to get what you want out of the situation, thanks for the help!”
Now, I’m sure the gentlemen over at askTRP will sort him out soon enough (assuming they haven’t already by the time I post this), but I wish I could talk to the OP’s girlfriend and share a few thoughts with her. Since she is unavailable to me, I will instead focus my musings with everyone here on RPW.
1.) I want to have sex really bad with my girlfriend I try kissing her neck, getting her in the mood etc. she keeps stopping me, I get frustrated.”
Please listen to what you are saying when you dismiss your SO. How many years have you dreamed about being with a man that cares for you and appreciates all you have to offer? When your SO is trying to appreciate and bond with you physically, stopping his advances accomplishes nothing. You are telling him that it’s not acceptable for him to initiate anything physical, unless you happen to be in the mood at that exact moment. Turning him down in no way encourages him to try and be intimate with you in the future. Dismiss his advances often enough, and he’ll stop trying all together. It won’t matter if you feel frisky or not, intimacy with you will have a negative association in his mind.
”2.) I joke around/flirt with a woman and she takes it the wrong way and tries to cause a scene.”
I can understand why you are bothered when you see your SO flirt with other women. Seeing him show interest and pay attention to someone else must really hurt and make you feel insecure…but please consider this: he probably feels just as insecure and hurt when you turn down his advances. He is more likely to notice and pursue other women because you are not meeting his needs. A happy man won’t look twice at other women.
”3.) Something is bothering me in my relationship, I make my SO aware of it, she hardly response. I get pissed and walk away from the situation she just tries to fall asleep and not deal with it. I want to deal with it and get it out of the way. She would rather not deal with it right away.”
I know that sometimes it feels easier to just ignore problems and hope they go away, but it has always been my experience that avoiding issues only allows them to fester and grow. You don’t have to be confrontational in order to deal with problems. I understand that this isn’t entirely your fault. If my SO ever acted outwardly ticked-off, I would be extremely disinclined to talk to him. Your SO needs to control his emotions, and you need to be an adult and talk to him about what’s going on.
”4.) I say something and my girlfriend looks at me like Im stupid or talks down to me like Im stupid. How do you handle these types of situations without causing an argument?”
This is supposed to be the man that you love. The man that you care enough about to be in a relationship with, so why in the name of all that’s good would you talk down to him like a child? There’s clearly room for improvement in this relationship, but you have to be willing to change and be better. Your actions are undermining your relationship. Please step up and start being a good woman, show your man that you love him. Or if you are no longer committed to him then move on. He deserves to be with a woman that wants to make him happy.
Sincerely, A Red Pill Woman
-As an aside, I'd also like to note that it's always really nice when I see a RP subscriber advocate for/promote/defend the value of long-term relationships. I know that TRP focuses heavily on casual dating, but not every man over there is interested in spinning plates. Finding a good Red Pill man does not mean that you have to enter into a no-strings or FWB arrangement. As Red Pill Women, we need to protect our assets and take steps to guard against self-sabotage.
I often come across posts about women on TRP that make me cringe, and I can't help thinking how many problems would be eradicated if women simply had better values. If TRP saw women consistently acting and promoting RPW values, then they wouldn't need plates. Their desire to guard against being taken advantage of wouldn't be as strong, and relationships/marriage wouldn't seem risky. They would know that entering into a relationship would be a great way to secure a good woman. A woman that would always seek to meet their physical and emotional needs.