On my lunchbreak today, older nogette stops me. I usually brush right past any PoC with a question (almost always beggars) but I am feeling nice today. What if she just needs directions?
Nope! She starts in, "I'm pregnant, can you help me get a bottled water?"
I say, "No I don't have any cash, sorry!" Even if I had cash, this woman is easily 50+. She is not pregnant. Is she still really getting results with this lie? And if we all know if I'd had a spare water on me, she'd have thrown it at me or something. She wanted cash.
She shouts, "You SLUT! YOU SLUT! YOU SLUT!" at me as I leave and cross the street. Now, I'm not a slut. But of course she went there, because I have blonde hair and I'm a conventionally attractive white woman. To her, I am the biggest problem in the world. Bigger than the family that won't help her. Bigger than whatever Nogs have abused/still abuse her. Bigger than the requirements, like not having a record, to get a decent job.
Just another reminder: Never relax. Even around the old ones. Even in broad daylight. And don't be nicer than you have to.