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[–] greycloud 0 points 1 points (+1|-0) ago 

this is a good list and i agree with all the techniques mentioned. i would add to this, to use the person that you are talking to's name when you are talking to them about something that they have revealed that they care about. this gives them a sense of validation, and also helps you remember them, this is especially good to do when you are summing up what they just said. ask questions to clarify a view they have just said, so that you make them feel like they are interesting, thus validating them.

it may be a cynical outlook, but the majority of people who talk to you just want to be validated.

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[–] Eleutheria 0 points 1 points (+1|-0) ago 

I make a point of doing this, especially in the service industry. If the server tells me their name, I'll make an effort to say "Thanks, X". Any time you are interacting with someone, using their name rather than a pronoun or implying them as the subject makes a world of difference.

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[–] nobslob 0 points 0 points (+0|-0) ago 

Way too much work. How can you fake it instead?

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[–] SaveTheChildren 0 points 0 points (+0|-0) ago 

Yuck, who wants to talk to people?