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[–] 7727242 0 points 1 points (+1|-0) ago 

I hang out with a lot of dommes, and I agree with your conclusion that most women, dommes included, are sexually submissive. Dommes are either service-topping, are switches, or find domming fun in a different way - playful, empowering, but not orgasmic.

I felt that my work affected my ability to connect intimately with my SO

I find this surprising, actually. I think BDSM experience teaches a lot about human nature and desire, and that can deepen intimacy.

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[–] Tambourine [S] 0 points 1 points (+1|-0) ago 

I used to feel that way re: deepening intimacy. I've come to feel that "BDSM intimacy" is really a surrogate for real intimacy - a very close sibling, but not the same thing. people use it as a shortcut to get to a place that's near, but again, not the same as, where they really need to be, emotionally.

I know I would never have been persuaded of this when I was involved, and I don't expect you to change your mind because of me. But although I think experimenting is good, I have come to believe that 99% of the time, "the lifestyle" is not healthy.

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[–] 7736272 0 points 0 points (+0|-0) ago 

Did you make friends in the lifestyle? Do you miss them now?