Welcome to /v/Childfree, a place for those who have chosen not to have children.
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For members:
• Posts must be related to the Childfree lifestyle or issues that pertain to the childfree. Birth control, legislation, kids in places they typically shouldn't be, examples of good/bad parenting, childfree humor/memes, anecdotes, rants and tales of how you spent your weekend are all fair-game topics!
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• Don't come here just to say how much you hate this subverse and its members.
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[–] Hume ago
When people used to tell me "you will change your mind when you are older" I desperately WANTED to believe them. The thought of having children has repulsed me ever since I was a child myself, but like many, I too thought that children were an inevitable fact of life; that was just what people do and nobody had told me otherwise.
My partner's sister recently had a child. She is of the the friendliest and most loving people I have ever met, and having a child tested her. It made me more comfortable with the fact that I will not have children, and my boyfriend finally understood. I don't have to make excuses any more, now that I have evidence to back up my preference not to have kids.
I was always the same with marriage, too. I didn't care about marriage, but it was framed as inevitable. My mother still laughs at my wedding plans as a child: "little wedding, big cake". Now I can just have the cake.