[–] Divinewonton 0 points 3 points (+3|-0) ago 

I think that you handled this correctly. A good friend should always have their friends' backs no matter how unpleasing the situation may be.


[–] GodlyXHell 0 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago  (edited ago)

You were the good guy. Nothing ever wrong with being the good guy and I commend you for it.

As for how to handle this situation... The way I see it, if you are already friends with this girl then this means she trusts you. Why not take her out? Not as a date! But to take her mind off things she would rather not think about.

Ask her out, not as a date but just as two friends having a good time. If it doesn't go the way you would like it to go? Well she had a good time and that's all that matters. And if it does? Well... remember this comment



[–] aaronvoats 0 points 0 points (+0|-0) ago  (edited ago)

Everyone else has said it already, but you did the right thing.

It takes a mature person to look past what they want at the moment and see what others need.

Take it slow, and try not to frame your interactions in a romantic light until there's a mutually comfortable understanding. She knows you're there for her - don't go for any sweeping gestures that'll put her into a weird position, but don't just disappear. She needs you!


[–] Usernamerequired 0 points 0 points (+0|-0) ago 

I don't think there's anything wrong with how you handled it, but as for what to do now you should really try to move on. You are not going to start a relationship with her anytime soon. If it isn't too painful, keep treating her like any other friend, but know that you most likely won't get anywhere romantically.

If it were me, I would give her space for a while, for both of our sakes.