Situation: Normal and conservative family, except for the fact that my aunt disrupts this balance with her career woman, canine false pregnancy disposition. If you've seen that 4chan /pol/ text describing a canine's false pregnancy matching up with the behavior of childless women, you'd see my aunt's behavior described perfectly. Someone link that if you can find it! She collects her Islamic migrants, treats her pet like a child, lives by herself yet brown noses in everybody's business because she needs family, and is generally irrational and cunty.
Problem: She is a grating, shrill, spinster witch-type-person but my immediate family is in denial of the way her indoctrinated and fucked up life is hurting us. She is actively pushing my sister towards a career and away from babies and family. My sister is too feminine and agreeable to disobey her powerful old aunt, I fear, and I don't know how to address this. To make matters worse my sister is currently in the late stages of university Marxist indoctrination herself. My parents are able to maintain a reasonably traditional relationship with each other and the kids. However, the dynamic changes when Crazy Aunt pops over. She makes catty, cunty, remarks and disrupts the balance of power that should rest with the man of the house, my dad. Her indoctrination rubs off on the kids and my parents do nothing.
My aunt hasn't married because "it's hard to find a man who will fall through the cracks" at her age. I'll let you interpret that for yourself. She butts in to my family's business and disrupts the balance of power in the house and forces my arguably weak father out of his position as man of the house, which I've found he's quite happy to naturally occupy in her absence (despite his claim that "I'm not the man of the house, I'm just a man in a house"). My mother is the only one who voices regular annoyance at the way her sister needs to butt in to every situation for gossip and social needs left unfulfilled by a career woman lifestyle. Telling my aunt that something is "none of your business" is a regular occurrence for me.
She reads the New York Times, votes for the liberals without fail, and has all the correct opinions. This pisses me off, of course, but the real problem is not politics, it's my family's well-being. I think my parents Boomer materialism blinds them from the potential happiness of a family. Auntie helped with the down payment on our house, but she is no fun to be around.
How do I get her to fuck off? She almost treats me like I'm her husband, sapping me of my emotional labour, which is gross. She then hires other men to do work around her house. How about a husband? I almost feel neutered around her. As sad as that sounds, I'm sure every man has felt this at some point with an overbearing woman when it's not socially acceptable to sock them in the face. She's a fucking annoying crazy man-hating Birkenstock-wearing Amazon woman. She's literally depriving me of nephews and nieces the longer she sends my sister down her same path. Has anybody been able to shrug off a cat lady like this? I want to spend time with my family, but my aunt has packaged herself into the deal by inviting herself over for every special occasion we have - and also once on Sundays for no particular reason.
My long deceased Grandmother (who was a homemaker and mother of 4) actually voiced concerns with this relationship. "Crazy Aunt is spending too much time with the kids" she told my dad. She was right!
My aunt is literally undergoing some form of psychosis and will not be reasonable. She cut a long time family friend out of her life for calling her "a lesbian".
So how do I talk to my dad and my sister about this problem?