Mostly a speculation, but it would make sense overall. I have a few choice concepts which make me believe she was a narc, and a very bad one at that too.
The first, most glaring example is this person hated seeing me happy, be it friend, family, or even a hobby. All avenues of happiness had to be destroyed, subverted, removed, hijacked, become couple things. This was made abundantly clear when her parents would gift me items. She HATED this, as far as she was concerned my job was to pay for them, pay their tickers, lodging, food, and in return i was to be treated like shit. Like she would get viscerally angry at the idea of someone giving me a gift, for days too.
The second example is that this person routinely used concepts to threaten me with, and would backtrack when called out. A good example is she routinely used to say that saying certain things, or doing certain things would warrant a break up. Well as it turns out i would go on to do these same things, and she would recant her breakup. It felt like she was more concerned losing her emoitional punching bag than anything else.
So once i noticed that her threats were empty, she pushed it to a million on the emotional abuse. She started insulting my dead siblings in public, she started yelling at me in public, humiliating me, berating me, and doing a bunch of under handed bullshit which made me extremely uncomfrotable. Like there could be a cute girl at the store, and she would immediately become super clingy. Your not fucking fooling anyone, you insecure idiot.
And then i had enough, and realized the easiest way to kill the relationship was to be truthful and honest. The more honest i became with myself, the more she hated me. The more i held her accountable for her actions, the more crazy and angry she got, as if some peon could tell her to clean up after herself. The more i hung out with my friends and neighbors, the more she became irrate at me. As if i lived to serve her.
TLDR: Bitches be crazy, commence the whackathon!
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[–] skullfuku ago
Take a page from the mgtow book. you don't need to work out. cycling or walking or nothing is also okay. You are not alone; it is an epidemy already. Sucks to live in a broken insane society, doesn't it?