Mostly a speculation, but it would make sense overall. I have a few choice concepts which make me believe she was a narc, and a very bad one at that too.
The first, most glaring example is this person hated seeing me happy, be it friend, family, or even a hobby. All avenues of happiness had to be destroyed, subverted, removed, hijacked, become couple things. This was made abundantly clear when her parents would gift me items. She HATED this, as far as she was concerned my job was to pay for them, pay their tickers, lodging, food, and in return i was to be treated like shit. Like she would get viscerally angry at the idea of someone giving me a gift, for days too.
The second example is that this person routinely used concepts to threaten me with, and would backtrack when called out. A good example is she routinely used to say that saying certain things, or doing certain things would warrant a break up. Well as it turns out i would go on to do these same things, and she would recant her breakup. It felt like she was more concerned losing her emoitional punching bag than anything else.
So once i noticed that her threats were empty, she pushed it to a million on the emotional abuse. She started insulting my dead siblings in public, she started yelling at me in public, humiliating me, berating me, and doing a bunch of under handed bullshit which made me extremely uncomfrotable. Like there could be a cute girl at the store, and she would immediately become super clingy. Your not fucking fooling anyone, you insecure idiot.
And then i had enough, and realized the easiest way to kill the relationship was to be truthful and honest. The more honest i became with myself, the more she hated me. The more i held her accountable for her actions, the more crazy and angry she got, as if some peon could tell her to clean up after herself. The more i hung out with my friends and neighbors, the more she became irrate at me. As if i lived to serve her.
TLDR: Bitches be crazy, commence the whackathon!
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[–] tokui 0 points 1 point 1 point (+1|-0) ago
If it fucks, flies, or floats.
[–] Deshy ago
Shucks, narcissists do hate honesty, they also hate accountability and taking responsibility, it’s typical Princess syndrome and is utterly exhausting, draining and a waste of time.
[–] nougat_hater [S] 0 points 1 point 1 point (+1|-0) ago
yes it be, its like something clicked in my brain over time, what the fuck am i doing in this? Why should i be with someone who gives zero fucks about me
[–] skullfuku ago
Take a page from the mgtow book. you don't need to work out. cycling or walking or nothing is also okay. You are not alone; it is an epidemy already. Sucks to live in a broken insane society, doesn't it?
[–] jackfraser ago
Rough times dude.
The two things I try to remember to keep me sane in my own relationship, which has its problems, are:
Since your woman is just an overgrown teenager, you need to know that subconsciously she is always seeking the authority figure, and wants you to find a way to be that while also not falling into the poisoned well of demonized figures from the past. In other words, she wants you to be as authoritative in her life as the bad husbands of a hundred years ago were while being 100% convinced you’re nothing like that. Amused confidence and agree-and-amplify are the best techniques toward portraying this image.
OP, in your next long term relationship, you gotta set that tone from the start.
Somewhere between these two views on women lies the way that will give you the sanity you need to step back and deal with them as they are, not as how they have been portrayed to you. You know deep down they’re not the same as men, that you cannot expect the same reasoning process or the same conclusions given the same fundamentals. Instead, you need to learn how they really approach things - with consensus, optics, etc as primary concerns - and take advantage of that.
This would all be easier, of course, if you started with a wife that shared your ideological precepts. Unfortunately, we have gone from being a society that literally had tremendous structures just to produce well-raised women like that (churches, etc) to a society that raises women to be the opposite of that on purpose.
[–] Wheatstone ago
This is the playbook she was using!
https://files.catbox.moe/87moyx.pdf
They are misery snorting scum that gets off on abusing people. Your better off away from her.
[–] nougat_hater [S] 0 points 1 point 1 point (+1|-0) ago
was gonna write another post about the brreakup, the general gist i asked her to clean up after herself. Epic meltdown ensued
[–] Diggernicks 1 point -1 points 0 points (+0|-1) ago
Simple solution.
Do not enter into binding legal contracts which only favor women.
You christ cuck tards.