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[–] FPHrefugee 2 points 57 points (+59|-2) ago 

Elders don't deserve respect by default. They don't get to tell you what to do. You have a basic amount of respect for human beings, and then if they want more, they need to earn that shit, regardless of age. If they are dicks to you, guess what they don't get respect.

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[–] DRSE 0 points 17 points (+17|-0) ago 

This also applies to people's jobs. Just because you think you're hot shit with your big fancy job titles doesn't mean you instantly gain respect. If you're a dick I will still think you're a dick if you become pope.

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[–] piedeity 0 points 6 points (+6|-0) ago 

Respect can also go into the negative and it's hell earning enough to get back to positive.

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[–] FPHrefugee 0 points 1 point (+1|-0) ago 

very very true

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[–] Kromohawk 0 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago 

Yes but we should still have patience with the elderly. The saying shouldn't be to respect your elders but to have patience with them. Old age can mess with your head and new ideas can come very quickly. That being said if they aren't being patient with you...

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[–] FPHrefugee ago 

agreed, I'm talking about when they think that just because they are older they can tell you what to do. I'm an adult, I don't need you telling me I shouldn't be disabled or that to be a complete woman I need to have kids. These are things people have told me.

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[–] leixiaotie 0 points 1 point (+1|-0) ago 

My golden rule is: everyone is respected at first until proven otherwise. For elders, they had experienced live more than I do and that experience will be valuable to share. I won't mind when they give advice to me. But when they start to act childish and using experience as argument, they start to losing the respect.

This should apply to parents as well.

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[–] Erroneous 0 points 48 points (+48|-0) ago 

Nobody checks to see if you're lying on your resume for entry level positions.

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[–] photonfiend 0 points 10 points (+10|-0) ago 

Why yes I was president for 16 years.

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[–] localbum 0 points 10 points (+10|-0) ago 

If sixteen year old me could hear that... I'd... have started working at Jack in the Box a bit earlier, I imagine.

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[–] sneakybells 0 points 3 points (+3|-0) ago 

Holy fuck. I've been busting my ass trying to find a job with no work experience and this has been killing me.

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[–] Northvvait 0 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago 

Nobody checks to see if you're lying on your resume for many higher level positions, either.

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[–] Eido 0 points 43 points (+43|-0) ago 

If he/she cheats with you... they'll cheat on you.

surprisingly aggressive backlash from that one. "NO WAY MAN! YOU DONT KNOW HIM/HER/US!!!"

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[–] Zkv 1 point 9 points (+10|-1) ago  (edited ago)

You have no idea until you see this shit happen. And if you're me, you'll know someone who has THIS happen:

There are 3 people, Alice, Bob, and Carol.
Alice and Bob are married.
Alice and Carol are having an affair. Bob knows they are interested in each other, but doesn't know the extent of their relationship.
Carol is sleeping Bob behind Alice's back.
Carol is also married, by the way.
Alice divorces Bob because she's a lesbian and loves Carol.
Alice and Carol stay together.
Carol divorces her husband too.

TL;DR, My family is a soap opera, my mother is a lesbian, and I am not a fan of my father.

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[–] blackdog6621 0 points 7 points (+7|-0) ago 

Man, you hear all these stories about Alice and Bob trying to communicate, but I guess they still couldn't make that connection without someone else interfering.

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[–] sneakybells 0 points 5 points (+5|-0) ago 

Essentially, if it wasn't for homophobia and the social pressures that come along with it, you wouldn't be born.

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[–] flat_hedgehog 1 point 15 points (+16|-1) ago 

Definitely this. Don't be "nice". Be good. Be respectful. Be a contributing member of society. Nice means nothing.

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[–] Tsugumori 0 points 4 points (+4|-0) ago 

I've recently started to note the difference between "nice" and "decent." What I consider "nice" is benefiting someone else at a cost to myself, what I consider "decent" is benefiting someone else at no (or minimal) cost to myself.

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[–] JimmyJimRyan 0 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago 

I don't think of it as a scale. You can be nice without being a pushover. Sometimes it's a really good way to deal with dick heads. I was confronted by a skinhead in London, I kept being basically nice without being a pushover and confused the crap out of him and he eventually went away. In that situation you need to be ready to fight without being fighty.

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[–] SevereHeebieJeebies 2 points 2 points (+4|-2) ago 

I wish more people understood this. Seems like there has been an increase in that entitled attitude over the past few years.

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[–] scorinth 1 point 5 points (+6|-1) ago  (edited ago)

Seems like he's arguing for being a sociopath, not arguing against entitlement.

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[–] AryanPony 2 points 31 points (+33|-2) ago 

Lying is the best tool you have if you are good at it.

Just use it wisely.

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[–] SevereHeebieJeebies 0 points 4 points (+4|-0) ago 

Also being bad at lying in strategic situations may help when you actually need to pull an important lie.

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[–] Karkrash66 0 points 3 points (+3|-0) ago 

The best liers convince everyone that they are bad liers.

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[–] CANCEL-CAT-FACTS 0 points 3 points (+3|-0) ago 

It's not a lie if you believe it.

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[–] Karkrash66 0 points 1 point (+1|-0) ago 

That's honestly a pretty good method of sustaining a big lie, if you repeat it long enough you start believing it yourself.

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[–] JimmyJimRyan 0 points 1 point (+1|-0) ago 

Yeah anyone who thinks lying is universally bad is a bit of an idiot.

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[–] GoAskErin 0 points 24 points (+24|-0) ago 

Sometimes you have to let someone you love crash and burn, to prevent them from taking you down in the process, whether it's a parent, spouse, or (grown, capable) child. It doesn't mean you don't love them, or that you're a bad, irresponsible person. Sometimes you have to let other people make bad decisions or stupid mistakes that could hurt them, because they need to learn and exercise self-control. Know your limits and when doing 'the right thing' is just enabling bad behavior and poor planning or endlessly draining your physical or emotional energy.

Be a helping hand; don't become a leash or a crutch.

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[–] Rotteuxx 0 points 1 point (+1|-0) ago 

This... can be a very hard decision to take towards someone you love but sometimes it's the only way.

Save yourself from a negative person but be open to them making amends, if they get there someday.

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[–] lord_nougat 0 points 19 points (+19|-0) ago 

Racially ambiguous people are hot.

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[–] FrontierPioneer 0 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago 

Would you say that we should...avoid these people?

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