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[–] TremorAcePV [S] 0 points 5 points (+5|-0) ago 

IT work. I like computers and am pretty good at trouble shooting them. I've considered doing this as a job, but there's a lot of issues that get in my way with that. I am basically a child in a man's body socially. I look at other people and don't understand what it means to be human, I guess? I don't know how to talk to people IRL. This makes having a regular job fairly difficult not to mention getting one.

I imagine that people feel comfortable with who they are and how they work internally. I don't know what that feels like.

I don't know where to live, or what you'd even consider to decide that.

You could say I don't even have a game plan, to get a game plan for my life. If I'm rambling, I'm sorry. I'm struggling with this.

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[–] Tbear05 0 points 3 points (+3|-0) ago 

The best way to get over social anxiety is to get a job where you talk to people like a cashier or something on the phone if you want to start off small. Although most people are nicer in person than on the phone.

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[–] PM_ME_YOUR_ARCHES 0 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago 

You and I sound very similar to each other in a few ways, but I wouldn't have known how to word it like that. I think the best advice I could give is that sometimes you might find the only thing that stops you from doing what you want to do is yourself. I know that I am capable of doing things but I am susceptible to self-sabotage sometimes, because I feel like I can't function the way other people do. I was basically at a dead end in my life until recently, but now I've found something I want to work towards.

I don't think it's necessarily a bad thing that you haven't fully decided what you want, as a lot of the time people become unhappy if they go down a certain path too early.

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[–] Stanley_Yelnats_IV 0 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago 

Sounds to me like the best way forward is to work out your social difficulties. I also struggled with social cues for a long time, but just because it doesn't come naturally to you doesn't mean you can't learn. Ultimately, social interactions are just a complex game, full of rules for which statements and actions are appropriate in which situations. Most people understand this by intuition, but you can do it via simple practice and memorization; worked for me.

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[–] TremorAcePV [S] 0 points 1 point (+1|-0) ago 

I am an introvert. Or 80% introvert, 20% extrovert. I feel like I could be perfectly fine as a hermit, but there are varying reasons why I wouldn't want to just hoof it to the mountains and live in solitude (I enjoy computers, for example, and the Internet, which is one of the few places I'm socially outgoing, if it could even be called that). I think, though I could be wrong, that I have two problems that exacerbate one another. I don't like talking to people (I would even call it physically painful at times), and I don't know how. But obviously it's required for our society.

It's made more complicated by that it's another person you'd have to interact with to learn. And unless they understood and agreed to helping you with it, you'd have to worry about them taking things the wrong way. Which I would say stunts growth.

I love learning. I can read all day. But, I've yet to read something that actually helps me with talking to others.

I'm hoping experience is all I need. Now getting it, that's the harder part for me.

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[–] Pawn 0 points 1 point (+1|-0) ago 

develop some social skills, talk to people on voat. Be open, but not too open. I assume you're male, so just give them a friendly hello ask what the problem is and get to work once you have the details sorted. you're YOU, get'er done.

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[–] TremorAcePV [S] ago 

Thanks. I think that's my #1 thing. Get social skills.