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[–] PinnIver 0 points 87 points (+87|-0) ago 

I don't think so, even though many don't speak about it, or some may even deny it, physical attraction is important to a relationship.

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[–] PinnIver 0 points 28 points (+28|-0) ago 

I like to look at it this way. Even if all the emotions are there, you're still, as you say, completely un-attracted to her. Over time she will notice, you'll not enjoy the relationship, and all in all it'll result in a bad relationship for the both of you. Atleast thats how I see it.

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[–] MrPim 0 points 14 points (+14|-0) ago 

Is it important enough to be a dealbreaker?

Only you can decide that. For me it is. I simply am not attracted to large women. And I am not going to be stuck in a relationship w someone who is. For me it's a deal breaker. For You? idk, is it?

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[–] psyker63 0 points 12 points (+12|-0) ago 

Think of it this way. Let's say you go for it. You commit to this girl, and it makes her deliriously happy. You manage to be happy for a while, but the sexual part of the relationship is getting more and more difficult for you to fake (I almost said "harder and harder"). Pretty soon, you're trying to avoid the whole subject. She starts to notice, and feels sad/bad/angry because either 1) you told her what the problem was and she resents you for being with her even though you knew you weren't attracted or 2) you didn't tell her, and now she's just hurt and confused. Not a recipe for success.

But wait, there's more. Since your needs can't just be shut down, you are now noticing thinner girls all around you, and feeling attracted. Now you feel guilty because you're thinking about other girls, which also isn't fair to her. She's even madder because you don't want to have sex with her, but your head is on a swivel all the time when you're out.

Put her in the friendzone. If you're really brave, tell her why. If she's all you say, you might save her life and help her get healthy. Imagine what life would be like then!

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[–] drivels 0 points 12 points (+12|-0) ago 

It is pretty important to be physically attracted to your significant other. There will be other girls, don't settle for a fattie.

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[–] BrianFellow 0 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago  (edited ago)

If you were a piece of shit, as you say, you wouldn't even be asking if you were a piece of shit. (That's not to say that those who already realize this are themselves pieces of shit, mind you.) So don't worry about it so much.

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[–] Calgary 1 points 9 points (+10|-1) ago 

It might be shallow, but you like what you like. I wouldn't date a girl with gap teeth, wouldn't date a girl taller than me, etc..

Everybody has their preference.

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[–] 654456 0 points 8 points (+8|-0) ago 

Fuck no.

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[–] Mrlim 0 points 8 points (+8|-0) ago 

No it certainly does not, people are allowed to have their preferences, and heading into a relationship without attraction to the other person is a recipe for disaster.

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[–] ScreaminMime 1 points 7 points (+8|-1) ago 

Repulsion to obesity is natural.

The deeper question is, do you tell her why... it could help her or it may damage her.

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[–] 654456 0 points 1 points (+1|-0) ago 

I can not see telling her why going well.

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[–] thegoldenboy 0 points 7 points (+7|-0) ago 

I don't think that makes someone a bad person.

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[–] PhKGn00bE 0 points 6 points (+6|-0) ago 

No

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