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[–] codioBunny 1 points 20 points (+21|-1) ago 

Not at all. Feed my ego, I'm a human being, I love that shit.

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[–] Lindeed 0 points 3 points (+3|-0) ago 

Jump for me pls

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[–] PokemonBananas 1 points 13 points (+14|-1) ago 

Depends on the situation, but as long as I feel safe no harm done. It can be a confidence boost.

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[–] PriyanPhoenix 0 points 7 points (+7|-0) ago 

I think context is pretty important here. I'm a big believer that sexual objectification is fine - both genders do it. The issue arises if one is always sexually objectifying the opposite sex. For example, when making out on the sofa I'm probably not thinking about how much I respect her PhD and she's not thinking about how much she admires my photographic talents; when working together in a team at the office, responding in a sexual way is likely to make everyone in the team uncomfortable.

tl;dr - telling people not to objectify the opposite sex is dumb and counterproductive; teach them that it's only sometimes appropriate instead.

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[–] King_Carcosa 0 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago 

But context hurts my brain and absolutism is so much easier.

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[–] therealSDK [S] 0 points 0 points (+0|-0) ago 

Thanks for the thoughtful response. May a propose a follow-up? There are people that are naturally attractive. They receive a disproportionate amount of sexual objectification because of this. What impact do you think this has on their day-to-day life?

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[–] Haiwi 1 points 3 points (+4|-1) ago 

I agree. I often tell my guy friends they can look but can't touch. (And don't be super creepy)

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[–] aakaakaak 0 points 7 points (+7|-0) ago 

Well helloooo....oh, not super creepy. Damnit, I'm out.

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[–] piitza 0 points 1 points (+1|-0) ago 

while im just a dude, i totally see this entirely. It can be creepy based on attractiveness and how they approach, or flattering if someones just being kind.

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[–] CommanderPao 0 points 0 points (+0|-0) ago 

to me it's less about attractiveness and more about condidence. If an ugly guy walks up confident like says something to flirt it would be more acceptable to me than a hot guy scurrying over all weird like with no eyecontact then walking off after the compliment.

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[–] ISkiUpHill 0 points 7 points (+7|-0) ago 

Not sure I get the gender delineation. I think there's a lot less difference between the sexes than prevailing attitudes suggest. I think we're all just people interacting with other people. I'm male, I get hit on too. Sometimes it's nice and a confidence booster. Sometimes I'm just looking for a friend and get frustrated when women seem only interested in sleeping with me - but I've certainly been guilty of doing the same to other women/people at other times. The objectification and feelings of isolation it can bring has certainly made me far more sensitive to how I hit on people I'm attracted to.

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[–] ISkiUpHill 0 points 1 points (+1|-0) ago 

meh, if just fooling around what you're into, more power to you. Personally, I'll take wicked friendships and long term relationships over a quick bang any day.

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[–] onetwoonetwothree 0 points 1 points (+1|-0) ago 

Totally dependent upon the situation. Total stranger on a bus - no, I do not identify with this statement. Friend of a friend in a bar or at a party - sure, this can be a confidence boost.

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[–] CommanderPao 0 points 0 points (+0|-0) ago 

I think it'd be a huge ego boost. But as with anything, there's a right way and a wrong way. A stranger being physically sexual to me randomly would be very very creepy and probably scary.

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[–] Tesrls 0 points 0 points (+0|-0) ago 

A lot of people are saying it here, that this would be situational dependent. If you're at work and trying to get shit done and the guy your working with is making it about maybe having sex, my happiness would go down bc I'd be pissed off. If I'm at a bar with some friends and some guy buys me a drink or flirts with me in another way, I'd be flattered, although I'm happily married and would have to decline the proffered sex!

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[–] Le_Squish 0 points 0 points (+0|-0) ago 

I'm okay with being sexualized. I think it's perfectly natural part of the mate finding process and a necessary part of a healthy long term relationship. What I don't like is being objectified. By objectified I mean when people treat me as if my whole worth as a human being is tied to how much sexual pleasure I could give them.

We really need to include men in these kinds of dialogs though. Men experience just as much sexual objectification and it is often much more vicious that what women experience. When someone treats me shitty, society has my back. Men don't have that support. Many women treat their men like all they are are muscles, a penis and a wallet and the moment one of those isn't working he loses value as a human being. Treat other like you want to be treated, goddammit!.

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[–] Comadoll 0 points 0 points (+0|-0) ago 

It greatly depends on the approach.

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