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[–] Vvswiftvv17 0 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago 

The entire point of tradwife is putting family first. To do that usually requires one of the parents to stay home. If I'm forgoing working to raise our family it's your duty to be making enough money to support me and your children. If you are pushing back against that idea referring to any woman as sucking you dry for doing so, then you are not looking for a traditional marriage.

You actually illistrate my point great and the filter autoweeds itself. You are already viewing paying for a woman's dinner or night out as a chore and something you shouldn't have to do. As a consumer you have the potential to receive maximum marginal utility from your expenses by not only possibly enjoying the person you are with for the night, but maybe even getting laid. If maximum marginal utility of a possible shag is not enough to motivate you to pick up a $100 dinner tab, how much more unlikely are you to throw down money on responsibilities that absolutely suck?

Sure, in your mind your intensions may be to be a great husband who supports his family, but she doesn't know that. Like I said, this isn't a Lifetime movie plot where your date has an inside look into your motivations and dreams before meeting you. There probably isn't going to be a story ark that happens over a few months where she keeps running into you and realizes you really are a "good guy". The date is your chance to show her that. If you want to stake your chances on the strategy of putting up all the wrong signs of what makes a good trad husband (like paying dutch, putting off signals you are broke, acting douchey) fine. But you are going to have a bad time. This is the real world kid, not a script.

You can't expect to find a tradwife if your perception of a tradwife is "she just wants muh money!" Like I said, it autoweeds itself.