My girlfriend seems to be one of the most sane and level headed women I've ever met. We've been together a few months and I've seen so sign of trouble (and lots of indications she's got her shit together emotionally). Things have been so good that I've been looking out for the catch, so to speak. I find myself wondering if I've found it or am being paranoid.
She's very sexually submissive, which is fine and works with our financial dynamic great. She often says things like "am I a good little sex slave?" and "I want to be a good girl for you" with a very earnest tone. Doesn't seem too odd on its own. But she also gets really sad on the rare occasions I'm not in the mood for sex (maybe I'm ill, in pain, or just really stressed; it's happened a couple times but rarely). She thinks I must not find her attractive or am getting bored with her and needs assurance (usually coupled with a good fucking) to feel better.
I don't think it's a libido balance issue as both of us are happy to have sex 3-5 times per day.
Maybe I'm making too much of it?
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[–] writingandsmiting 0 points 1 point 1 point (+1|-0) ago
She's got issues, but she's scared that revealing them will drive you away. The sooner you get her guard down the better. Try to instill trust, and cool it with the sex, she doesn't genuinely want to do it 3-5 times per day, she's just doing that for your sake. Make an effort to spend quality time with her that doesn't involve sex, that will help.
[–] L_Etranger [S] ago (edited ago)
We do a lot of other quality time. I think she really likes getting laid that much. She left her last guy because he wasn't satisfying her in bed.
I do wonder about the root of get insecurity though. I'll try to get her guard down.
[–] [deleted] 0 points 1 point 1 point (+1|-0) ago
[–] L_Etranger [S] ago (edited ago)
No, we broke up. This is a Chinese girl adopted by White New Yorker parents.
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