I know this guy who apparently is fucking loaded because he won the parent lottery. Never really held a steady job, barely makes ends meet as a math tutor.
He also has issues.
I on the other hand don't have money. He is loaded, I'm not, so fine.
It's not like he ever offers to help, that is clearly off the table, and it is understandable except it feels like the relationship is like:
"I see you're drowning there, and I have a lot of rope, but I don't want to give you any because it would make things awkward."
"Hey, sorry you haven't eaten in a while, let me finish dinner here and we will talk about it. I'd share but I didn't make enough - you understand right?"
Having money is fine, talking about it is kind of a dick move.
How have you guys dealt with this?
Edit: there is seems to be a lot of functional utility built into friendships. People say - I'm only friends with this person because I get something out of the deal. That's what it seems like. It seems to be an inescapable trap.
Double edit because people can't read.
Triple edit: my conclusion is this - if there is a financial disparity in your friendship, just don't talk about money. If your friend is fighting to hang on and you aren't willing / can't really help - don't talk about it, you're being a dick.
It's like driving a Maserati through poor neighborhoods.
Lending or giving money to friends is a horrible idea and rarely ends well. Talking about money is just low rent.
Final edit - despite your best efforts, I did come away with some solid perspective. Thank you to those who took the time to really understand a poorly worded question.