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[–] Dr_Shekel_Nigger 2 points 79 points (+81|-2) ago  (edited ago)

Don't talk to her about that stuff. Talk about her life, and your lives. Talk about healthy lifestyles, important familial issues, and ask her questions about her future and her day, etc. Talk about your interpersonal and connection, and not about politicized things.

Get a cute puppy that she can play with when she visits or send one to her(if you think she'll be able to care for it well).

Take her backpacking. Go with her, or offer to pay, for experiences that will get her out of urban areas, and into countryside, wilderness, or very foreign environments, with strenuous physical activity.

Basically you're just trying to distract her mind, snap her mind, out of its feedback loop, and get her physical exercise and wilderness exposure and lifestyle change. These together maybe won't "heal" her, but it will help, a lot. It can also help let her see your care for her and your relationship, which can let her get out of the habituated adversarial dynamic which has grown between you.

If you absolutely must talk about these issues, and I don't recommend it, remind her that this is the first time in history when the "progressive" thinking was actually the mainstream thinking, shared by a majority of US population, the media, and even the CIA. Ask her what she thinks it means, historically, that she is sharing the same vision as the CIA, corporations/mainstream media, and the rich and powerful elite

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[–] cointelpro_shill 1 point 19 points (+20|-1) ago 

Good advice from the good Dr_Shekel_Nigger. She's gotta learn to re-identify with dad. Won't happen thru Fox News talking points alone. Doing normal human stuff > (((political discourse)))

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[–] DeltaBravoTango 0 points 4 points (+4|-0) ago 

Watch out, Dr. Phil!

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[–] jackofdiamonds 1 point 16 points (+17|-1) ago 

This is the best advice in the thread. I'm glad there are some sensible people here. "OMFG LIGHT HER ON FIRE AND KICK HER OFF A BRIDGE" isn't going to accomplish anything, and will absolutely permanently destroy your relationship.

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[–] EngelbertHumperdinck 0 points 1 point (+1|-0) ago 

Ideally, do all these things long before she goes to university.

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[–] piratse 1 point 1 point (+2|-1) ago 

I stopped reading at "send the college girl a puppy."

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[–] puggy 0 points 1 point (+1|-0) ago 

Correct, that is the worst idea ever and will result in a neglected dog.