If you can't communicate with your children, it's not you and it's not the generation gap. It's extreme leftism SJW claptrap. She and I used to have meaningful conversations about life and politics. Our relationship was healthy with the usual father/mother/daughter misunderstandings and I was never concerned about her character. She would talk to me because she wanted to understand my thoughts about various things and ideas.
Then she went to University. First thing I noticed was she called very infrequently. Then when she came home, she was constantly on her phone. Her mom and her would get into long arguments. At first I simply assumed it was normal child rebellion thing. Recently she pointed out the attack at London Bridge. Mom and I both said it was a muslim attack. This is when she got triggered and started calling us all kinds of epithets. Wow, I thought. She is infected with SJW big time. My mind started rushing back through all her other outbursts and unfortunately, it all made sense in this context.
None of us realized until that moment that our daughter is one of them. She doesn't come home often because we trigger her now. Not on purpose. But our thinking is so opposite of her talking points that she simply feels uncomfortable being with us when we talk about anything other than the weather.
In the "talks" we've had, her narrative sounds just like the multiculturalism claptrap they spew on CNN. She stopped thinking at University and is now indoctrinated with group think. Her life is all about veganism, the latest fads, globalization and then when I heard "Burning Man" with the word authentic used over a dozen times, I knew this had to be some sort commune to nature kumbaya event. Oh yea. Woodstock rebooted but with the pretext that it's environmental friendly. Sure, put tens of thousands of people in one place and you have tons of carbon emissions just getting people there and back. Drugs and parties like it's the 60's all over again.
At least now I understand what got into her. The question now is, how do you go about detox? It may be a slow journey. Is there anything we can do to get her to think on her own without getting her to hate us? My thinking is not really. We may just have to let her figure it out on her own.