Archived Voat'ers, what is the absolute worst thing you've done to someone, and do you feel bad now? (AskVoat)
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Archived Voat'ers, what is the absolute worst thing you've done to someone, and do you feel bad now? (AskVoat)
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[–] Joliet_Jake_Blues 0 points 1 point 1 point (+1|-0) ago (edited ago)
I didn't go to my good friend's (call him J) wedding because I was mad at that group of friends. He had asked me to be a groomsman before sending out invitations and I said I would, but when he invited me I told him that I couldn't see those people. He told me he was really really disappointed.
In college there was a group of 5 of us. One of these guys, call him B was getting married. When B was with his new girlfriend (the one he married) I hooked up with B's ex girlfriend. He didn't care, we laughed about it. It was a drunken mistake. B's new girlfriend, I guess, did care.
I kinda lost touch when we all left college, but I knew B would be sending me an invite so I didn't think about it. We were all busy with new jobs and didn't talk much (this was before Facebook) Then, I hear that everyone is in town for B's wedding and I had never been invited. All the guys invited me out for drinks, and I was like, wtf? B's wife didn't want me at the wedding because I slept with his ex. None of them stuck up for me, they just played it off as, oh well, too bad. She cut me out of their group and none of them said shit.
So it's J's turn to get married and I said I be there for him, of course. I'd have died for anyone of those guys. But the more I thought about it, the more it pissed me off that they did nothing, said nothing to B or B's wife. That they let me get tossed aside.
So one night, after a few beers I said no. I wrote J an email and said I wasn't going to his wedding. That I didn't want to see B or his wife. That I didn't want to make a scene if I said something or got angry.
He wrote me back, basically begging me to go. He tried to tell me B's wedding wasn't a big deal. He said that he'd be really upset if I didn't go.
I wrote back and got a little mean, that I wasn't going to "waste my vacation time flying to a red state to go hang out with people I didn't want to see." That B's wife was a cunt and if she'd tried to cut any of them out, that I wouldn't have gone to her and B's wedding.
And I've never talked to any of them again. I miss those guys sometimes, and wonder how their lives turned out. This was all at least 10 years ago.
(Oh, I wasn't the only one of B's friends that fucked his ex, I was just the only one that B's wife knew about. The guy that fucked her and had a month long relationship with her still went to the wedding, and took relish in telling me why I wasn't invited while he was. I was embarrassed and felt like a pile of shit, they all talked about this beforehand, decided I didn't matter and wasn't worth fighting for. I felt like my loyalty to them wasn't respected or even cared about. It was all a big joke, haha, S fucked her for a month and got invited to the wedding, you fucked her once and are forever dead to B's wife. Isn't that so funny?!?)
I hurt J because B hurt me. And blew off the entire group of my college friends.
[–] blameturner [S] ago
have you found them on facebook since? would be interesting for your sake.
[–] Joliet_Jake_Blues 0 points 1 point 1 point (+1|-0) ago
I never joined Facebook and this is one of the reasons. I kinda want to now, because I'm moving out of state and want to keep in touch with all the friends I've made here, but there are definitely people I don't want to interact with ever again. Or even think about.