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[–] Vvswiftvv17 0 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago 

My husband and I have talked about this a lot. He explained to me that women are surrounded by men in everything we do...but men can often times go days without seeing women because they work in male dominated fields, then go to bars that are holes in the wall that most women would not go to, and do hobbies with their bros that do not interest women. He had to make a real effort to get out and just put himself in the same world as women, so that's your first step...go where the women go. The second step is don't be creepy and don't be the guy who is trying to be a 'player', be genuine. I dated many guys over many years....and when I went on a date with my husband I had actually been dating another man that on paper had much more going for him than my husband (he owned three homes, my husband owned a 1995 truck that was lifted and rented a one bedroom apartment). Even though he didn't have much materially, I still fell for him...why? Because he was genuine and made his purpose known. He wasn't interested in finding a girlfriend, he was looking for a wife (his words). He chased after me like I had never been chased before. He didn't play games. The other guy I had dated for two months and would only see on the weekends. That was lame. My husband would take me on a date, and confirm the next date before the one we were on ended. Soon he was just coming over to hang out. The third week of dating I was working on my Master Thesis and you know what he did? He spent all the time he had off sitting on my couch offering to make me dinner or bring me back food so I could keep working. BTW: I hardly showered at all the week. That is what did it for me. I realized any man that could sit next to my dirty ass for a week bringing me food (and not getting laid in return) was probably a guy worth keeping.

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[–] trucking_foal 1 points 2 points (+3|-1) ago 

attractive men attract women. They don't really have to do too much. Women, girls, will go out of there way to be accessible to men they are attracted to. there is no secret.

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[–] SwiftLion 0 points 1 points (+1|-0) ago 

Honestly, a lot of it is just trial and error, and learning from error. Most guys try to balance out "fear of rejection" against the reward of being accepted, and they decide they will only proceed in cases where they are SURE they won't be rejected.

But you can't project confidence if you aren't in a risky situation. You can't be brave in your living room on a comfy Saturday morning, there's nothing to be brave at.

If you only just met someone five minutes ago, who cares so much if they reject you? They had no idea who you were, and they won't really get to know you, or see you again. Just don't sweat it.