I'm just curious if other men's experiences match my own or if I am an outlier in this. There's a common narrative of prevelant sexual harrassment against women in all aspects of daily life, and an outrage towards it. However, in my little bubble of media and influences nothing is ever mentioned about the male experience. I am not a pretty man, but even I have experienced tons of this so I assume others do as well. I also assume it's much worse for extremely attractive men. At work I have had two girls, and a flamboyant guy on another occasion, stand behind me and rub my shoulders while I'm at my desk. Also at work a girl grinding herself on me in the elevator as her friends laugh. Lots of sexual innuendo and jokes. Outside of work and with alcohol/drugs it increases exponentially. Girls rubbing their butts on me. Grabbing me, a few times my crotch. Me being friendly but not showing interest, girls have tried to kiss me. The only one that I remember really bothering me a lot was a drunk girl I wasn't interested in straddling me at a party and licking the side of my face and trying to put her tongue in my ear. Another I remember a girl getting super pissed and making a scene at a party because I kept turning my head as she tried to kiss me more and more aggressively, and I kept trying to let her know I wasn't interested without embarrassing her or hurting her feelings. Still, for me I have never considered these things a big deal, and yes i admit flettering despite not being interested. I have just been thinking about it lately after reading about sexual harrassment against women and the outrage that follows. Is this common for you as well? What are some of your experiences?
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[–] RawrMeansFuckYou 0 points 1 point 1 point (+1|-0) ago
In my experience, girls will usually wait for the guy to make a move, but I have experienced the odd piece of harassment.
I was out for my friend's 19th birthday, and we were waiting on a taxi outside the nightclub. This older woman, I'd say at least 45, stands beside me for a few seconds and then just come out with "Want to come home with me?" I chuckled, because that was the first time ever that someone has said something like that to me, and it was just too cheesy to me true. I didn't reply, then she kept moving closer to me, and then came out with "Do you not like me or something?" I was shocked, this woman looked older than my ma. I laughed again; but I don't think she got the point, because she was now rubbing up against me. Now I'm freaked. I'm nudging my friend and they'll all laughing at me. So I just walk away from her, and the bitch starts tearing up. Maybe she was just too drunk or something, but freaked me out a bit. If I had my beer goggles on... No... I don't think beer goggles could have made her any better/younger looking.
Another time, same friend group, we were having a drink at one of their home's, and his mum, aunty and a few family friends are there. I actually think this was the his birthday for the year before the story above, can't remember. Anyway, there's only a few of us up, because most of the guys were too drunk and fucked off to bed, so it was only me, one other friend, the mum, aunty and family friends. I'm sitting at the kitchen table, and the aunty sits on my lap and starts grinding me. I'm 19, she's about 40 with 2 kids. And she had met one of her nephews friend's that night. I was taking none of that shit, and stood up and went out to smoke a j. She then tried to steal my jacket when she was leaving, and she managed to steal the rest of my vodka. Some people.