I'm just curious if other men's experiences match my own or if I am an outlier in this. There's a common narrative of prevelant sexual harrassment against women in all aspects of daily life, and an outrage towards it. However, in my little bubble of media and influences nothing is ever mentioned about the male experience. I am not a pretty man, but even I have experienced tons of this so I assume others do as well. I also assume it's much worse for extremely attractive men. At work I have had two girls, and a flamboyant guy on another occasion, stand behind me and rub my shoulders while I'm at my desk. Also at work a girl grinding herself on me in the elevator as her friends laugh. Lots of sexual innuendo and jokes. Outside of work and with alcohol/drugs it increases exponentially. Girls rubbing their butts on me. Grabbing me, a few times my crotch. Me being friendly but not showing interest, girls have tried to kiss me. The only one that I remember really bothering me a lot was a drunk girl I wasn't interested in straddling me at a party and licking the side of my face and trying to put her tongue in my ear. Another I remember a girl getting super pissed and making a scene at a party because I kept turning my head as she tried to kiss me more and more aggressively, and I kept trying to let her know I wasn't interested without embarrassing her or hurting her feelings. Still, for me I have never considered these things a big deal, and yes i admit flettering despite not being interested. I have just been thinking about it lately after reading about sexual harrassment against women and the outrage that follows. Is this common for you as well? What are some of your experiences?
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[–] Bleeding_Potato 0 points 3 points 3 points (+3|-0) ago
Years ago when I was in high school, I used to deal with two women who liked to grab my butt for no reason. I had no interest in these girls, since at the time I was dating someone who went to a neighboring school. On top of this, they also stalked me, trying to follow me home, to work, even following me when I was going on dates. Lucky for me, they never figured out where I exactly lived but would show up at my after school job and would grab at me in any location they could. After a few months of this, they then tried to solicit me for sex, yet again, I'd refuse because I was already dating someone. Reporting them never did anything. It took a year for the two of them to stop bothering me. Last time I checked, both of them had kids to random guys right out of high school and are unemployed. I still don't know why they did that.
If you include what others count as sexual harassment, I've been hit on by random married women while grocery shopping but I really don't think that counts.
[–] Harkozey [S] 0 points 2 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago
Wow that sucks man. I can easily imagine nobody caring when you went to report it too, stuff like that is seriously messed up.
[–] Bleeding_Potato 0 points 2 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago
Yeah, I was laughed at and given the response: "They like you, you should try to go out with one of them." I'd imagine if I actually did, the end result wouldn't have been pretty.