I'm just curious if other men's experiences match my own or if I am an outlier in this. There's a common narrative of prevelant sexual harrassment against women in all aspects of daily life, and an outrage towards it. However, in my little bubble of media and influences nothing is ever mentioned about the male experience. I am not a pretty man, but even I have experienced tons of this so I assume others do as well. I also assume it's much worse for extremely attractive men. At work I have had two girls, and a flamboyant guy on another occasion, stand behind me and rub my shoulders while I'm at my desk. Also at work a girl grinding herself on me in the elevator as her friends laugh. Lots of sexual innuendo and jokes. Outside of work and with alcohol/drugs it increases exponentially. Girls rubbing their butts on me. Grabbing me, a few times my crotch. Me being friendly but not showing interest, girls have tried to kiss me. The only one that I remember really bothering me a lot was a drunk girl I wasn't interested in straddling me at a party and licking the side of my face and trying to put her tongue in my ear. Another I remember a girl getting super pissed and making a scene at a party because I kept turning my head as she tried to kiss me more and more aggressively, and I kept trying to let her know I wasn't interested without embarrassing her or hurting her feelings. Still, for me I have never considered these things a big deal, and yes i admit flettering despite not being interested. I have just been thinking about it lately after reading about sexual harrassment against women and the outrage that follows. Is this common for you as well? What are some of your experiences?
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[–] fleas 0 points 6 points 6 points (+6|-0) ago
Oh course I have. Never any quid pro quo harassment but that's probably due to a lack of female supervisors above me. But the other stuff I just ignore; I have a simple rule if my feelz get ruffled I self examine first to determine if its just me being a cry baby or if its justified.
[–] ClitoralCommander 0 points 1 point 1 point (+1|-0) ago
That's a good way to look at it. The issue is: where do you draw the line?
[–] fleas 0 points 2 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago (edited ago)
My line is simple. If I wouldn't mind if someone I liked or was attracted to did it, I won't fault anyone else for it. There's no double standards for me.