I'm just curious if other men's experiences match my own or if I am an outlier in this. There's a common narrative of prevelant sexual harrassment against women in all aspects of daily life, and an outrage towards it. However, in my little bubble of media and influences nothing is ever mentioned about the male experience. I am not a pretty man, but even I have experienced tons of this so I assume others do as well. I also assume it's much worse for extremely attractive men. At work I have had two girls, and a flamboyant guy on another occasion, stand behind me and rub my shoulders while I'm at my desk. Also at work a girl grinding herself on me in the elevator as her friends laugh. Lots of sexual innuendo and jokes. Outside of work and with alcohol/drugs it increases exponentially. Girls rubbing their butts on me. Grabbing me, a few times my crotch. Me being friendly but not showing interest, girls have tried to kiss me. The only one that I remember really bothering me a lot was a drunk girl I wasn't interested in straddling me at a party and licking the side of my face and trying to put her tongue in my ear. Another I remember a girl getting super pissed and making a scene at a party because I kept turning my head as she tried to kiss me more and more aggressively, and I kept trying to let her know I wasn't interested without embarrassing her or hurting her feelings. Still, for me I have never considered these things a big deal, and yes i admit flettering despite not being interested. I have just been thinking about it lately after reading about sexual harrassment against women and the outrage that follows. Is this common for you as well? What are some of your experiences?
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[–] Zednix ago
Yes, a few instances in the past of really fat women groping me or making sexual comments about what they want to do to me. I consider those minor instances where I just felt mortified by the attention. I have defended myself against advances twice in my life, lucky its only twice I guess.
In one instance a friend's younger sister had a crush on me and I was attending her birthday party since we have a lot of mutual friends. People were drinking and she asked me a question, I leaned down to her to hear her repeat it to have her grab me by my neck and kiss me. I shoved her away and she stumbled to the ground, people started accusing me of hitting her. It was very odd having friends say you did something you didn't do and they didn't even see happen. Her sister, my friend, who invited me,came over to defend my case and told people to mind their business. That was that.
The one other time, at a bonfire party, a girl I had flirted with caught me off guard and pushed me against a wall while choking me and put her hand the front of my jeans. We were alone inside the house for a split second and this happened. She had her hand under my jaw pushing up on a wall while grabbing my dick. A friend who was coming into the house to load up more cold beers saw it and pushed her off me. She proceeded to kick him in the knee and started throwing punches. I pushed her down and my friend dialed 911 while I kept pushing her back. It was a weird experience to be violated like that.