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[–] 7278443 1 points 3 points (+4|-1) ago 

Don't read into it too much. It will only make you second guess yourself more. Doctors don't know much of anything about autism, except how to tell people they have it.

I firmly believe that everyone is on the spectrum somewhere, and most people never realize it. You might have to learn to speak "human," but the rest comes with experience. Just consider that everyone on this planet is irrational from time to time, you just have a superpower where you aren't burdened with that as often. The downside is that you have to deal with all the normies.

As for employment, just communicate openly in your interview that you take instructions well as long as they are given clearly and literally. You are a serious person that expects proper leadership from your manager. You don't want to work for someone that can't communicate well. Customer service will probably never be a good fit for you if such things are a problem regularly.

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[–] 7278579 [S] 1 points 1 points (+2|-1) ago 

Thanks. I don't really know what to make of it, but it's nice to have a label for what's different about me instead of just this odd feeling that I'm told everyone gets about not being normal.

I already second-guess myself on anything I'm not confident in, like communication with others and just about anything branching from that.

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[–] 7343194 0 points 0 points (+0|-0) ago 

Doctors are idiots that don't know shit about crap! They have no clue what you have, they guess!!! Sometimes their guesses are so off the wall you have to wonder about the doctors mental state.

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[–] 7349062 0 points 1 points (+1|-0) ago 

They get kickbacks for prescribing junk medicine. An old friend of family was a private practice doctor that made upwards of 40 million a year through his practice (containing 13 other doctors) of prescribing whatever his patients asked for. The guy is a scumbag. Luckily he got his license to practice revoked, and his ass sued off when a kid overdosed on unnecessary meds, and he is now a singe asshole who is hated by his own family, and gets by on a disability handout from the government. Still got better than he deserves IMO.

They are mostly smart people, they're just just psychopathic assholes more concerned with their paycheck than the well-being of their patients. I feel bad for the doctors that actually want to help people, because they get a really bad rep from the pill-pushers.

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[–] 7279686 0 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago 

Stress makes things worse.

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[–] 7278691 1 points 2 points (+3|-1) ago  (edited ago)

Some people on the spectrum do well with procedural repetition so you might be good at something like software quality assurance or even just assembly line work, but just because somebody's good at something doesn't guarantee that they'll be able enjoy doing it all day everyday. A temp agency can help you get assembly or factory work, and there are white collar job recruiters who can help you get a temporary QA position that may become permanent if you're good. Most jobs will require at least some social skills, but I've found that these two fields are often, although not always, more accepting of awkward individuals. Some are so welcoming to the point where it seems like they may be taking advantage of such individuals. As PizzaGators like to call it, weoponizing autists. They say it tongue in cheek, meaning no offense, but it's an attitude that some companies take advantage of in order to work people harder than they should. In software development there's a similar phrase that captures the essence of overworking individuals who enjoy working. Eat, sleep, code, repeat.

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[–] 7278528 1 points 2 points (+3|-1) ago 

Hi

I just took your advanced thanks and now dont feel like doing any of the work. I already got paid, so what do I care? Maybe ill just do a half assed job just to make it look like I tried. Yeah. Thats good.

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[–] 7278581 [S] 1 points 1 points (+2|-1) ago 

Well, thanks for the half-assed response anyway!

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[–] 7278589 1 points -1 points (+0|-1) ago 

Yw ;)

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[–] 7278358 1 points 2 points (+3|-1) ago  (edited ago)

I've never been formally diagnosed as on the spectrum though I was diagnosed as ADHD in the 80s and supposedly there was a lot of misdiagnosis of that. I'm pretty sure I would qualify as an Aspie if I were to get diagnosed today and everyone I've talked to about it tends to agree.

What worked for me is to just find something where your quirks shine and where you ideally don't have to deal with people much.

Edit to add: For me that was software development and remote work.

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[–] 7278431 [S] 1 points 1 points (+2|-1) ago 

Never learned to code. I'm not awful with it, but I get overwhelmed by the options and apparent volatility of what's useful and what isn't. Don't want to learn something that'll be useless by the time I can implement it.

Sounds ideal for sure, though.

Thanks a ton for your response!

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[–] 7278282 1 points 2 points (+3|-1) ago 

There are plenty of people in the same situation as you on Voat.

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[–] 7278314 [S] 1 points 2 points (+3|-1) ago 

I don't doubt that. I know it's normal to call other online persons "autist" for various things, but I think there's some truth to it, to be honest.

Hoping one of them that actually was diagnosed or has some kind of real world knowledge or experience will respond.

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[–] 7278378 1 points 1 points (+2|-1) ago  (edited ago)

I was being serious. I know of at least two who have been diagnosed. I cannot say their names though. I'll tell them about this thread in PM's and they can answer if they choose.

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[–] 7343176 0 points 1 points (+1|-0) ago 

You're normal , the doctors a retard and so are your co-workers!

We are living in a world where schools work EXTREMELY hard to fuck up the kids and convert them all to Bolshevik Islamic slavery.

Get a doctor that is anti-ADHD and all that, there is no such a thing as ADA, and normal people getting put as some spectrum of some thing is just bullshit.

Now days the higher the education the stupider they are! And doctors are way up there! I know very few good doctors!

As for your co-workers and employer, I am guessing you live in some ultra libtard state or province. Scientists are literally working on figuring out what is wrong with people in California. They think the pollution is causing brain damage and making them all into little ass holes.

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[–] 7279942 0 points 1 points (+1|-0) ago 

I was diagnosed well into adulthood only a few years ago. It was a shock but it has affected my personal and professional life in positive and negative ways. It took me nearly 2 years to get a handle on what it meant for me but now it's something I can use instead of being a victim of it. I know my issues, I am proactive daily in working on those things and making them an advantage rather than a disability.

There is so much I could tell you but it all boils down to this: You know part of the problem, you can now work of dealing with it. You can work on minimizing your weaknesses and enhancing your strengths. Identify them and work on them.

The ADA shouldn't affect your hiring potential if you manage to make your strengths out-weigh your weaknesses. You will still be expected to behave professionally, work as part of a team in some way and meet the expectations of the job. The ADA can help if someone has an issue with you personally but in the end you will still have to be able to perform the job you are hired for.

You are the one with the issue here, so it is on you to do the work to make it work for you and learn to make it work for others. As for "reality-based conclusions instead of emotions and 'it's always been that way,'" Well, you have to show you can do it that way and do it well enough that you get to be in charge so you can change that. Or you have to develop your ability to suggest changes that make it profitable to do it another way.

Study sales, interpersonal communications and basic behavioral psychology. They helped me deal with and understand normal people in many ways.

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[–] 7290010 [S] 0 points 1 points (+1|-0) ago 

The ADA can help if someone has an issue with you personally

This would be tremendous, since my response to co-workers while I'm working seems to them either "mean" or "dismissive" or some other patently absurd emotive word.

but in the end you will still have to be able to perform the job you are hired for.

None of the jobs I've accepted are, from the outset, described as teamwork or accomplished in groups with discussion... I've very specifically not taken those jobs because I won't be able to perform there to anyone's standards.

Study sales, interpersonal communications and basic behavioral psychology. They helped me deal with and understand normal people in many ways.

Is a personality facade of canned, neutral responses to the usual social interaction paradigms not the best one can do? Despite learning about how normal people behave, if I can't wrap my mind around the "why?", I tend to not come to a good conclusion.

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[–] 7443523 0 points 0 points (+0|-0) ago 

None of the jobs I've accepted are, from the outset, described as teamwork or accomplished in groups with discussion... I've very specifically not taken those jobs because I won't be able to perform there to anyone's standards.

Every job that involves more than 1 other person is a teamwork job in some fashion. Learning to deal/work with others, their limitations and their strengths, is a part of growing up and reality. Unless you can do work solo to support yourself, some dynamic is going to involve teamwork and working with others. They won't call it "teamwork" but it's still the same thing learning to work with that will also help you advance in whatever career field you choose. I'm not trying to beat you down on this, but it is something you learn with long experience. Denying this fact of life just hurts you long term. Focusing on your issues with it will benefit you just as much as learning anything else in life.

Is a personality facade of canned, neutral responses to the usual social interaction paradigms not the best one can do? Despite learning about how normal people behave, if I can't wrap my mind around the "why?", I tend to not come to a good conclusion.

Not quite sure what the point of the statement was, sorry. The understanding I gained from studying sales, communications and behavioral psych didn't lead to canned neutral responses but instead let me be myself. I went from trying to fake being like everyone else to being myself, my responses are natural, my differences are accepted, my talents - and the reason I have them - are recognized and utilized as opposed to before. If there are problems that come up at work due to my issue they are addressed and both sides work on not repeating them.

As for "Why?" - It's not fucking important to be honest. I know why the books and others say "why" some people behave some ways. I know "why" my coworkers think and do some things, but they make absolutely no sense to me. The important part isn't comprehension of their motivations or behaviors, it is knowing the likelihood of their behaviors that is important. Knowing that someone will likely react some way to something I am doing lets me modify my approach to it to maximize the potential for it to succeed.

I am continually wrong in some respects in this, but that too is life, but when I am wrong I use that to be better prepared for next time. The trick in all this is learning not to leave yourself open to being wrong about something in a way that hurts you or other

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