I'm in my early 30s and have mostly only had sex with women I've dated a while. It's been mostly because I just don't enjoy sex like it seems everyone else does.
I can't keep an erection in a condom for more than a few minutes and when I was in college I would take horny goat weed to try, but it didn't do anything. I tried taking ZMA supplements, but that also didn't improve anything.
Without a condom I feel almost nothing. I get sensation for a bit but the more I go, the more wet they get and then it's like fucking mashed potatoes. They're all pretty tight, I can't get more than 2 fingers in any of them, and I use magnums because the regular size feels like a cock ring. So I can't say it's because I'm having sex with loose women.
I've thought about taking viagra but if I can avoid a condom that wouldn't even be needed so I don't think a 4hr hard-on would be my solution.
Any advice other than how to enjoy a lifetime of hand jobs?
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[–] Sosacms ago
I wear the thinnest condoms I can find. I try to maintain long term relationships so we can switch from condoms to cuming inside.
But what's worked best for me has been more mental than physical. Sex is a physical expression to an internal feeling, so I keep try to be aware of the internal feeling as much as the physical sensations. I also tend to ignore my dick and focus on her body. Set the hips on auto pilot and enjoy the everything else.
[–] WORF_MOTORBOATS_TROI ago
I've read that most labeling of "thin condoms" is just marketing and that there is not a significant difference between the thickness of the material.
[–] Sosacms ago
That wouldn't surprise me and it's not like these a big night/day difference between condoms.
[–] fakeid8675309 [S] 2 points -1 points 1 point (+1|-2) ago
I tried the skin type on Thursday but ended up taking it off just to fuck her longer. Without the condom I feel nothing and won't cum unless I'm bottoming out and grinding on her until my legs cramp or back gives out. Either way I've had sex maybe 1000 times in my life and mostly without a condom, but I've only been able to finish from sex maybe 3 times. Every other time, even with head, required her hands or mine.
I haven't found ANY women I can get a mental sexual connection with. They're all submissive and basically lie down or can do one thing I say at a time. But forget dirty talk or following instructions more than "roll over" and "ass up" while I hold their chest against the bed.
This is all why I've chosen to only have sex when I date and I can't have casual sex, I won't get off from them and I rarely meet someone I want to please that I haven't gotten to know pretty well.
[–] Sosacms 1 point 1 point 2 points (+2|-1) ago
Honestly sounds like you've trained your body with to much porn and jerking off.
You don't feel anything because sex has no value beyond what you can give yourself with a hand. Even sounds like you are wanting her to just behave more like a porn girl.
I usually don't finish with sex either. But that's because I don't really want to. I don't have sex for the orgasm, I can have orgasms alone. I have sex for all the intensity I can't have by myself.