At the age of 16, My personal life can be summed up in one sentence, 'a fuck ton of rejections'. Whenever I have potential to gain a lady friend, I always find a way to mess it up. Never making the same mistake but instead making new ones.
I never cared too much before because it was always the girl who instigated in some way or another and I was just trying to go along with the ride. Now however, I have fucked up with the only girl I have ever truly liked and who ticked every box. She is so similar to me that it is almost scary. But me being me, I decided to try to be flirty over text and have most probably put her off (if she was ever put on in the slightest). I have a 100% rejection rate and am surrounded by friends with gfs or some sort of magical power for success with women.
I am sick of it and would like to learn how to care less or ideally get my mind off of it. Can anyone help?
TLDR sick of rejection can anyone help me not care so much?
EDIT: I just want to say thanks to everyone who's commented here; you've all been a big help and given me a lot to think about.
I would just like to clarify that I have never tried anything out of loneliness or desperation. Upon reading 'along for the ride' I can see how I may have implied the latter. I was just trying to articulate that even when the other party showed interest I still managed to mess up. But, hey ho you guys have still been a big help.
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[–] Darkeyedone 0 points 3 points 3 points (+3|-0) ago (edited ago)
OK, so... Female who had lots of awkward male friends who had the same problem here.
1) Be good with who you are.
2) Know that most relationships at your age end all the same way: break up.
3) Relax. You don't have to have another person to be happy. Rejection sucks, but being with someone because you don't want to be alone is worse.
4) You are single. You aren't spending money on somebody else, dude! Upside, anyone?
5) Seriously, your time will come. Don't give up, but don't obsess. Everybody goes through the rejection phase unless they are extremely good looking or have money flying out their butts. It will get better, then worse. You will have your heart broken and you will do the breaking.
Just look at it as leveling up. Gain more Experience Points and reach that next level. So, your princess is in another castle. Are you Toad or Mario? You have to go through it all to be ready for your one. Don't worry. It will happen. Just relax and enjoy your time.
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