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[–] 17791537? ago 

>>13063552

I didn't have a dad to raise me and I'm not really a strong man myself

you have to lead by example

Leading by example is a big deal, and you need to do everything you can to do that. That said, I was raised by a father with many shortcomings, but I still ended up better in almost every way than him. My suggestions are:

  • After your kids reach 4-5 you need to take the lead in raising them from their mother. The WORST thing you can do is to let their mother be their main influence past that point. I owe many of the positive personality traits I have to the fact that my mother was not around to poison me.

  • Even if you have money, you need to teach your children that if they want things they are going to have to work for them. I grew up with nothing, so this was obvious. Most of my friends who were raised in families that provided lots of resources for them grew up to be lazy and ineffective. Teach them the value and the joy of work early on.

  • Get them physically active. This is something you can and should lead by example with. I got into lifting and running when I was younger because I saw my Dad doing it. If you start the habit when you are young it is easy to maintain it the rest of your life. Team sports are good so they can learn how group hierarchies work.

  • Learn to recognize your own failures and shortcomings so that you can try to avoid passing them on to your children.