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[–] 17789513? ago 

Never consider such an event a blog post. This is /sig/ and thus we are brothers come what may.

You are the patriarch of your family unit, the first thing to do is remain stoic. Your lover will need your support and strength to maintain her composure. The second thing is do not panic. Nature, much like our lives themselves, can sometimes have darker moments. Hope for the best but prepare for the worst is the best advice that can be offered if the tidings are as ill as they could potentially be. If it was an error with the machine and the follow up is good news, then celebrate. If not then you nor your partner are at fault, it was merely an unfortuanate roll of the dice and thus you must roll again when the time is right.

The most important thing you can do at this juncture is be the man you need to be for your wife. Take both your minds off of it tomorrow, mayhaps take a small trip somewhere, just the two of you, maybe even go out for a pleasant dinner. Remind her this is a unison between the two of you and allow her to vent her feelings to you, no matter what they are. Do not however allow your feelings to overwhelm your good senses and share indiscriminantly, if she begs for your emotions on it make sure to offer only strength, no weakness for it will compound her emotional turmoil even further, you must remember you are the her guardian regarding both the physical and mental aspects of her wellbeing and thus showing fear yourself will be severely damaging. Guide her back to hope should the worst come to pass and tend her wounds as best you can and offer succor.

Hope be with you, please return and let us know for good or ill.

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[–] 17789525? ago 

>>13051911

Thanks, buds, sometimes this is still a magical place. Well, the results were only confirmed today. My child died 4-5 weeks ago, and will be unceremoniously sucked via a plastic tube into probably a garbage bag or some shit. I can only really say that inwardly I am very angry at the situation, while outwardly trying to remain something positively stoic.

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[–] 17789551? ago 

Sorry to hear that anon. You'll make it through this and grow stronger.

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[–] 17789549? ago 

I cannot say I will pray for you in this moment for I am not a worshipper of the semetic gods nor a follower of our European pantheons. But I do mourn for your loss as a fellow brother.

Science would tell you it's merely a group of cells. The semetic religions would tell it was merely "the childs time". Both are liars who distill such a thing into a simpletons way of thinking. It was a part of you, an was an indefinable creation of the union between you and the woman you love. Your approach of stoic strength is the hardest path to follow. It is also the most wisest and noble and will see you through to the other side. The only other thing I can offer is use that anger to hone your strength, let it be a test of your resolve, of your ability to control and focus it where needed. All I can say is don't let it consume you, it must be a tool to be used, not something that controls you instead.

Words come cheap, especially in a moment of reflection when shrouded by mourning but for what it is worth know there are those of us who will always be willing to share the weight with you. You will be a father some day, it may not be this day but it will happen. Thus when it does we will celebrate with you, continents and oceans apart. But for this moment we stand with you in this moment of sadness.