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[–] 17652516? ago 

I can’t meet any goal I set for myself.

I want to reframe my perspective so I don’t hate myself

Sound like you suck at setting goals, but your partially right: you do need to change your perspective.

All your goals should be to achieve something important or maintain current success. Things like studying, practice, and proper work are all important; keeping yourself healthy and maintaining relationships help to keep that success.

What people forget when making goals is the WHY and you lose spirit. For example: it’s easy to say:”this week I’ll work out everyday because that’s the healthy thing to do” but it’s hard when your body starts feeling it or unexpected incidents arise like overtime or sudden invitation to go out with friends. “The healthy thing to do” becomes a faraway concept while immediate concerns and pleasures are tangible.

So instead be concrete. When I decided to run again for the fourth time in my life I did it for my late grandmother. I wanted to live a full life like she did as a pilot and a mother of seven children, when I die and meet her I want her to be proud of me, but I won’t be able to do that unless my life is long and good. So I ran everyday for a year. I ran in the rain, I ran in hail, I rain at 4 am, I ran when there was a tornado warning, I ran when there was lightning coming down around me, I ran after there was a body found on my route, I ran even when college kids would roll up and scream at me, and most importantly, I ran when I just didn’t care too. A year ago I was obese and now I’m at a healthy weight. I did this because every step of the way I pictured myself meeting her again.

Gloating aside, to achieve goals you need to make sensible goals, have a solid mind set to achieve them and be able to get back up when you fail. Try writing your goal down and ask yourself why this is a good idea. Be specific and verbose about it. Make a time every week we’re you review that goal and maybe write some more thoughts on it, you want to examine your mentality and process as much as what your actually trying to achieve. Did you try this and fail in the past? Try and diagnose why and come up with a plan to overcome that difficulty.

Most importantly be an active participant in your own life. You control your own actions, but only if your conscious about it. And if you have no will to be conscious just remember something important your doing this for.

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[–] 17699170? ago 

For years and years I lifted with no discipline and no progress because I had no goal in mind for WHY I was doing it, except maybe to get more chicks and pol told me to.

A few months back my 12 year old, fatherless, little sister said to me "you're so skinny and you have no muscles".

I've been more disciplined and consistent and made more progress in the last 3 months than I have in 3 years. She has begun craving traditional masculinity to admire and respect, and I've been depriving her of it as a weak faggot lanklet, absolutely shunning my duty as her elder brother. Shameful.

It feels great to finally have a reason.