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[–] RedditDead2005-2015 0 points 10 points (+10|-0) ago 

Fear of failure.

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[–] GingerSoul [S] 0 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago 

That holds a lot of us back, I like to think about failure as an opportunity to succeed next time. We can't learn without making mistakes.

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[–] RedditDead2005-2015 0 points 3 points (+3|-0) ago 

You make it seem as if there are no physical and mental scars. A demotivational quote for you. ;)

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[–] ILikeItDeep 0 points 8 points (+8|-0) ago 

The idea that I shouldn't have to devote my life to making money but living in a world controlled by it.

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[–] William_Wallace 0 points 5 points (+5|-0) ago 

I'm not a sociopath.

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[–] goatboy 0 points 0 points (+0|-0) ago  (edited ago)

Fuck, I'm a psychopath and even I can't get ahead. Its this goddamn economy man! It's holding everybody back.

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[–] barset 0 points 1 points (+1|-0) ago 

Same. I'm on the shortlist for promotion but they're downsizing the next tier up and increasing their workload. So it's fucking impossible to get a leg up and if I did it's hell if I do. I like the gig being stable but no growth and growth is key for people like me. There's a lot of long timers in my position who've put in 15+ years and long since given up on moving up and there's guys with 20 years on me trying to get the same spots. I lost out on my last one to a guy older than me even though on paper and experience I was more qualified but he was older so it went to him.

Fuck this shit.

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[–] kyprioth 0 points 3 points (+3|-0) ago 

Pretty acute depression and anxiety which leads to a lack of motivation and inability to do anything beyond barely survive. Or at least it seems that way. Too many basic things are going without doing.

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[–] GingerSoul [S] 0 points 1 points (+1|-0) ago 

I'm also barely surviving and very demotivated, that's why I can spend so much time on the internet, it's my escape from reality.

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[–] slfnflctd 0 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago  (edited ago)

Disillusionment about religion, magical thinking, romance, adulthood, most people's motivations and the vast majority of institutions.

Depression, brought on in large part by the above. The things I do to combat depression (i.e. distracting myself with altered states, games, shows and non-productive internet browsing).

Anxiety, mostly as a result of not accomplishing 'enough' due to the above. The things I do to combat anxiety (i.e. drinking).

Apathy, because someone has already done whatever it is better than I could.

The people in my life, who paradoxically enrich my existence and help sustain me but also seem to lack either the ability or the interest to effectively push me or work with me to do any of the things I like to imagine are most important to me.

Finally, myself-- because I'm just comfortable enough after all the shit I've been through that I'm unwilling to risk doing anything which might disrupt what I have now. Part of me feels like this means I almost kinda deserve to die, but I continue to hope my life is worth more than I think it is anyway.

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[–] Men13 0 points 1 points (+1|-0) ago 

Right now - money. But not the way it usually does.

When you say "holding back" I see it as "from what you want to do / be". I've been a stay at home dad for 2 years now, and I LOVE it. I even started my own business (owner and only employee! YAY!), and managed to make ~90k/year working 4 hours a day in my underwear while the kid is in preschool (double what my wife makes at her full time job) and spend all the rest of the day with my kid.

LOVED IT! But... then the offer came. A company I worked with make me a "full time" offer, but working on location. Paying me almost 4 times as much as I make now, but working almost 3 times as much (including commute). No more working in my undies whenever I want while watching TV. No more being able to just "take the family on a month long road trip" (where I do my 4 hours at the hotel every evening), no more having the kid spend most of his day with me (transferred to a full-day preschool, only have about 2 hours/day with him on weekdays)

Just... I mean, it's a great offer and will set us off for life, and it's a great move for my career, and there's no way we could have passed on the offer...

and that's what holds me back. I can't pass on an offer this good. But I REALLY want to :( I REALLY love my life right now :(

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[–] zak_the_mac 0 points 1 points (+1|-0) ago 

Nothing, anymore! For all the people suffering from anxiety and worry in this thread, there's good news: the older you get, the more likely you are to worry less.

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[–] GingerSoul [S] 0 points 1 points (+1|-0) ago 

I can't agree more with you, you are not the first one who tells me this.

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[–] barset 0 points 0 points (+0|-0) ago 

I had a hell of an epiphany about 25 and just stopped giving a fuck about most shit and started doing what made me happy. Doesn't do shit for my current situations but totally helps with dealing with day to day bullshit from others. A lot of why should I give a fuck about your problems if you aren't going to make the first step to solving them.

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[–] dregan 0 points 1 points (+1|-0) ago 

I keep fucking up.

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