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1 submissions to askwomen

1 submissions to rants

This user has so far shared a total of 0 links, started a total of 2 discussions and submitted a total of 7 comments.

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Submissions: This user has upvoted 24 and downvoted 0 submissions.

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5 highest rated submissions:

Do you enjoy giving blowjobs and oral sex? If not, why not?, submitted: 8/7/2017 2:09:14 AM, 16 points (+17|-1)

Can't sleep, thinking too much about a screwed up relationship (long), submitted: 3/22/2018 8:35:27 AM, 3 points (+4|-1)

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Can't sleep, thinking too much about a screwed up relationship (long), submitted: 3/22/2018 8:35:27 AM, 3 points (+4|-1)

Do you enjoy giving blowjobs and oral sex? If not, why not?, submitted: 8/7/2017 2:09:14 AM, 16 points (+17|-1)

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Would you ever date someone who did porn in the past? submitted by SOULESS to AskVoat

virtuousslut 1 points 5 points (+6|-1) ago

Highly doubt that. I like him to have a good amount of sexual experience, but there's a point at which his sexual partner count might nauseate me. Being a porn star would probably nauseate me, with 95% 99% certainty, unless there was some sort of dire need for money, I guess, or if it was a one time thing. How many porns/women did he do?

Also worth considering whether he might have overly liberal sexual expectations from you. Would he ask you to participate in a threesome? An offbeat kink? Does he want premarital sex? Would you be able to handle all his expectations? And would he be able to pace himself with an inexperienced woman?

Thinking of all the STDs pornstars could contract makes me shudder. Is he cleared in that regard?

He'd have to be really amazing to overlook something like pornstar past, 'cause that's downright disgusting to me, no offense. I think there are more than thousands of other men you could find before needing to settle for that (just look at this site). Especially considering you're a virgin yourself.

Don't have to answer my questions at all, but I am very curious what traits you find so compelling in him.

Would you ever date someone who did porn in the past? submitted by SOULESS to AskVoat

virtuousslut 0 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago

Hm, gonna have to let it be a judgment call, then. I'd say it would be worse if he worked for a porn company. It also suggests he might not have good long-term skills for a stable/secure income. If I were you, I'd want to know a number and details at some point.

I've not straight told him I'm a virgin yet but he knows I'm not very experienced... It's kinda obvious.

This is going to be important when you tell him. I don't know why, but it really seems to scare some men when I tell them I'm a virgin. Maybe they think I'm an absurdly uptight prude (lol, as if: as my name suggests, I'm very sexual, but I place a high value on any sexual investment). Some guys don't seem to care, and that also bothers me. Having spent a while on Voat, it is clear that a woman being chaste is unusual and valuable. I've come across many men who love the virginity thing, almost to a point where it's a little weird (like, geez, do I lose my value after I lose it?). So, of course, either extreme can be bad, but I personally prefer that a man treasure my virginity, as it is a manifestation of character, after all.

I think a man who would treasure your virginity would be gentle and help you shift to finding more enjoyment in sex. When you tell him, watch for his reaction. He might not like it since he is sexually liberal, but it could be that since he's seen the ugly side of promiscuity in porn, he'll actually place value in it. Ya know, he probably has a good idea without you saying anything; did you know men can smell virgins? (also kinda weird) Or maybe it was gait. Can't find the study I saw.

And, lol, you are not a prude for questioning a guy with a past in porn. Everybody has their own comfort limits and prudishness for certain things, as they should. I'm lax with many things, but porn is not one!

He is very social and connects with people well which reminds me of my best friend who died back when I was 19. She and I were complete opposites but we got along so well.

I can see why that'd keep you interested. Be very careful, though, that you're not seeking to replace your friend with him because it may cause you to overlook his faults in hopes of filling that hole in your heart. I had a much less severe but similar issue where I might have been trying to replace someone in the past.

When I'm on my own I tend to be very disconnected and really have to fight myself to stay social and push my comfort zone.

It's good you know this. Still doesn't mean you have to settle for a porn past!

What do you think? I'm not really sure what type of personality traits to look for in a long term partner since I've never had one before. Like... People say a big part of relationships are accepting each other's flaws. How do you decide which flaws are acceptable or not?

Eek, I have to run for an exam, but I hope to reply to this by tomorrow. Sorry for my long responses, by the way, just rare to find someone who's also a virgin and be able to discuss it at length.

Do you enjoy giving blowjobs and oral sex? If not, why not? submitted by virtuousslut to askwomen

virtuousslut 0 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago

Simultaneously, you mean? Or as some sort of ultimate exchange? Would it be correct to say you're not enjoying it entirely for the sake of giving a blow job?

Thanks for responding. I realize it's more difficult to answer.

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Can't sleep, thinking too much about a screwed up relationship (long) submitted by virtuousslut to rants

virtuousslut 0 points 0 points (+0|-0) ago

Thank you. I needed the therapeutic effect of writing, but I appreciate all feedback and the fact that you read the whole post.

His life might be his right, but it's also his duty to consider how suicide will affect others in his life... at the minimum.

You and the other commenter are saying what I have been heading towards, I guess. It was taxing, but I have been able to talk him through bad times in the past. Now, even if only by compulsion, not by choice, I can't do anything for him anyways. Sometimes, we just don't want to hear others' consoling. We want to feel sorry for ourselves. This echoes what I felt in my depression... I kind of knew my suicidal thoughts were dramatic, but that's what I wanted to tell myself. Telling other people, they might be like, "Woah, calm down. It's not that big a deal." But it doesn't matter what they think/say if I don't believe it. I had to keep to myself and hit rock bottom by myself and understand my thoughts were irrational by myself.

He's apparently depressed about work, but by all my assessments, it's more than likely to turn out well for him. You're right that it's his responsibility. I'm seeing my situation mirrored here. It's a deep, dark, intimate journey we have to work through alone. I don't think my intentions were bad, but perhaps I am selfish for my worry. Also, emasculating? Maybe. No man likes to be thought of as weak (though I don't see it as weak, just human). Felt wrong writing this post, but I needed to vent. Anyways. Point taken. I shall step back and stick to praying/hoping/waiting.

Thank you very much for reading/replying. Hope you are working through your own situation well.

Can't sleep, thinking too much about a screwed up relationship (long) submitted by virtuousslut to rants

virtuousslut 0 points 0 points (+0|-0) ago

You in reverse? Like, you were having a depressive episode where you pushed your loved ones away?

Lol, he does love his ego stroked. That's why I'm so confused about him uncharacteristically cutting me off like this. Does he want me to chase him harder or leave him alone.

I have this feeling that he was not always like this. I met him when he was still very charming, jovial, easygoing... He's different these days. I have faith in him. Perhaps blind. And ill-fated.

What shits me off is i need a bit of help and support from time to time and do my utmost to return it all. But ive not had it, and i suspect the last time around she knew more about what was going on in my head than i did, and decided to throw me in the too hard basket.

Am sorry to hear that. Felt the same in my depression. It would have been nice to have someone worried about me, at the very least. Good people are rare, very rare.

Fair warning tho. When you dont go back (because thats what youre going to do eventually) he will blame you.

This is my next issue I need to tackle... I do not know when he will be okay. If ever. Will he want me then. If ever. Should I wait? More than likely I will wait because I'm strongly attached anyways. But what if I wait only for him to never return? Honestly, he could always find younger women, but I'm the one who'll expire. I'm already practically wasted/used goods over him. It's all so fucky and unfair.
How would it have been for you?

How to request a brand new subverse submitted by InterestingThings to whatever

virtuousslut 0 points 0 points (+0|-0) ago

You can simply create one: https://voat.co/subverses/create