[–] OlympicWalrus 0 points 11 points 11 points (+11|-0) ago
If you are actually thinking about the relationship in those terms you likely shouldn't be in it. Trying to quantify and compare value in a relationship doesn't really make sense, your relationship isn't a competition. Focus on what the quality of your relationship is together.
[–] CapinBoredface 0 points 1 point 1 point (+1|-0) ago
Exactly this. If you consciously think "Eh, this'll do I guess..." then that's a no.
But if you one day notice that the person you love is flawed that's okay.
[–] xeemee 0 points 4 points 4 points (+4|-0) ago
interesting question
my opinion is that 'love' is more of a decision than a circumstance and if you're looking for the 'the right one' as depicted by Hollywood, you are very likely wasting your time
that said, i would advise that you resonate with your partner because trying to force a relationship may be a disaster waiting to happen
[–] TAThatBoomerang [S] ago
What? Love is more of a decision? How can you decide to fall in love?
[–] pacman2000 0 points 3 points 3 points (+3|-0) ago (edited ago)
No person is going to be completely perfect. At a certain point you do need to compromise and find someone you are compatible with. It won't be perfect but if you both are on the same page and are relatively similar in looks and social status I think it's good to settle for each other as long as you're both happy with each other. You can't have everything, but if you can have most of everything I think that's pretty good. I have been in my relationship for over 6 years and I think it's a very healthy one and we love each other more now than ever. Could I get with a more attractive younger girl? Yes, but I don't want that, I want the wonderful girl I have who is closer to my age and treats me and our kids good and still does it for me sexually even though neither of us are supermodels.
edit: Left words out
Every guy with a Farrah Fawcett poster, or a Christie Brinkly pin-up, or Cindy Crawford screen saver settled for someone else.
Except for Lee Majors, Billy Joel, and Richard Gere.
[–] TheTrigger ago
Depends on what you mean by "settle". I would never "settle down" with someone whom I find beneath me. Would I find someone that is the most compatible with me, and stick to that? Why not. I did, and it's turned out great.
Don't get married and you are good. If you are the superior person in the relationship and you aren't relying on the other person for food and shelter, why would you restrict your escape? Am I fucking right or what.
[–] coconuts ago
It works for some people. The only way to find out is to try. For most, it don't matter, had secks.