[–] Iforgotmy_other_acct 0 points 9 points 9 points (+9|-0) ago
Ask yourself if there's any truth to it, and what you can do about it.
[–] frankenham ago
Yep, a lot of people will dismiss criticism when it reality there's some truth to it and should apply that to bettering yourself. What is it that people are saying negative things about you? Is there a pattern of what sort of things people say?
It can be tough to accept something negative about yourself because that's just not how we look at ourselves, but if several people have called you a douche there's a chance you might be a douche. If that's the case try to be objective and view your actions from the view of somebody else and ask yourself if you'd think that person's acting like a douche. Then in return change your behavior to something that is more likable.
[–] MetalAegis 0 points 3 points 3 points (+3|-0) ago
Don't be so critical of yourself and have more confidence, if that doesn't work then fight fire with fire and rebuff those insults or criticisms with some observations of your own.
[–] Acerebral 0 points 2 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago
This is not an easy thing to deal with, but there are a few things you can do to mitigate it. Myself, I find that I tend to assign too much importance to casual comments and spend too much time trying to "read the tea leaves" to divine what a person is really thinking. Here are a few things that have helped me:
These are easy to write, but hard to put into action, and even harder to start believing. But it is important to focus on trying. At the beginning, just cover up the pain and smile through it like a glutton for punishment. It will get easier eventually, and given enough time, you will start to notice the self-talk you are doing to yourself that reinforces your inferiority complex. As you start to catch yourself agreeing with the negativity or even running with it, you can call bullshit on your brain and start to choose your emotional responses.
This is a hard one to deal with, and you will experience setbacks, but you are capable of overcoming this and improving your outlook on life. I wish you the best of luck, and know that you have the unconditional support of at least one stranger who believes in you.
[–] physicscat 0 points 2 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago
Stop caring what other people think. People are idiots. Insecure idiots.
Remember that all over the world there are people struggling with malnutrition, lack of clean water, war, torture...etc. perspective can do wonders.
[–] NeedMoarGuitars 0 points 2 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago
Practice learning to care less about other people's opinions, especially when they are negative. People who put you down feel bad about themselves and need to knock someone down to feel a tiny bit better. Don't give them the power.
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[–] draco_nite [S] 0 points 6 points 6 points (+6|-0) ago
I'm expecting all sorts of abuse right now, so I doubt it.