[–] Sosacms 0 points 1 point 1 point (+1|-0) ago
Two concepts i use.
It is what it is. If it wasn't, it wouldn't be.
I am who i am, if i wasn't me I'd be someone else. If i want to be someone else, i should change me. If i don't want to be someone else, then I'm the me i choose to be.
If someone calls me something that is true, then that's no more insulting than looking in the mirror. If it's something I can change, then it's my fault it's true not theirs. If it's something i can't change, then i can't change it so why worry.
If what they say isn't true, than it's no more insulting than calling me a purple pregnant unicorn.
[–] 3217196? 0 points 1 point 1 point (+1|-0) ago (edited ago)
I'd suggest a few options, I'd go with one which suits your personality fundamentals to make the transition easier.
1) Fuel your ego and build an arrogant but strong sense of self confidence as armour. (Do more activities and incorporate it into your sense of self. You only get hurt if you believe the criticisms are true.)
2) Let go of your ego and your attachment to your sense of self and there is nothing left for others to hit. (i.e. Meditate etc, Buddhism style.)
3) Grow a strong sense of humour and enjoy the banter. (i.e. Hang out with some Australians for a few years.)
Ultimately all solutions require you gaining more experience in the world. So maybe just start there and see where you end up. (Such a question strongly suggests to me you are young so just keep putting yourself out there and grow from the experience.)
have you considered, simply not giving a fuck? i mean, not in not any harsh way whatsoever, i get that somethings can rub certain people, but, the world will have its assholes.
[–] angry_voater ago
can't think of any advice right now but i hope you find some help with this OP. i can say from personal experience that this quality will fuck you up in the long run.
[–] baneofretail ago
Look at yourself in a mirror and say the most hateful fucking things you can think of at yourself. Punch yourself in your face if you get upset. Negative reinforcement and how I got through school.
[–] deltasly ago
Realize that you have zero control over those other folks, only yourself. Your power is in how you react.
Are you going to let then control how you feel? Hell no! Fuck them - you don't want to feel bad and you're not going to!
Your energy is too valuable to waste on their bullshit. They do not matter.