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[–] draco_nite [S] 0 points 6 points (+6|-0) ago 

I'm expecting all sorts of abuse right now, so I doubt it.

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[–] Teeder 4 points 4 points (+8|-4) ago 

Exchange your vagina for a set of balls. Take back what Bruce gave away

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[–] Acerebral 0 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago 

Woah, woah, woah. What?! That fucker still has all the plumbing? You're telling me I've been lusting after a milf that has a cock and balls?

Seriously, though, I though Jenner had gone all the way and snipped 'em.

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[–] Iforgotmy_other_acct 0 points 9 points (+9|-0) ago 

Ask yourself if there's any truth to it, and what you can do about it.

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[–] frankenham ago 

Yep, a lot of people will dismiss criticism when it reality there's some truth to it and should apply that to bettering yourself. What is it that people are saying negative things about you? Is there a pattern of what sort of things people say?

It can be tough to accept something negative about yourself because that's just not how we look at ourselves, but if several people have called you a douche there's a chance you might be a douche. If that's the case try to be objective and view your actions from the view of somebody else and ask yourself if you'd think that person's acting like a douche. Then in return change your behavior to something that is more likable.

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[–] MetalAegis 0 points 3 points (+3|-0) ago 

Don't be so critical of yourself and have more confidence, if that doesn't work then fight fire with fire and rebuff those insults or criticisms with some observations of your own.

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[–] Clips 0 points 3 points (+3|-0) ago 

Always consider self-improvement, and take criticism as a way to do so (if there's any truth to them). Expose yourself to different ideas and values, choose and apply those that are reasonably agreeable.

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[–] Acerebral 0 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago 

This is not an easy thing to deal with, but there are a few things you can do to mitigate it. Myself, I find that I tend to assign too much importance to casual comments and spend too much time trying to "read the tea leaves" to divine what a person is really thinking. Here are a few things that have helped me:

  1. Look for patterns rather than individual instances. If a person says something negative, file it away for context. If lots of people say something negative, maybe you are doing something wrong. If the same person says lots of negative things, they are probably just an asshole.
  2. Take things at face value. If somebody cancels on you, forgets to invite you to an event, or otherwise slights you in some subtle way, assume they are dense and either didn't consider that meaning or meant exactly what they said. They really did forget to invite you for no good reason, or they really to have an appointment that evening. You would be surprised how many people just say what they mean with no subtext.
  3. As a correlation to the one above, if they don't say it, they didn't think it. You can't read minds, you can't know what people are really thinking beyond what they say. If they don't explicitly say they hate you or think you are incompetent, don't fall into the trap of assigning those opinions to them.
  4. Change your axioms. This one takes work. If you are like me, you are waiting for people to figure out that you suck, that you are no good, that they really shouldn't like you. Instead (and this takes work) start with the assumption that "I am awesome." Then your thought process goes something like this: "I am awesome. He said that I didn't do such a good job on such-and-such project. But I know I'm awesome, so there are only two possibilities. Either he's an incompetent asshole, or I have some room to improve my awesomeness." (notice that neither option involves you sucking).

These are easy to write, but hard to put into action, and even harder to start believing. But it is important to focus on trying. At the beginning, just cover up the pain and smile through it like a glutton for punishment. It will get easier eventually, and given enough time, you will start to notice the self-talk you are doing to yourself that reinforces your inferiority complex. As you start to catch yourself agreeing with the negativity or even running with it, you can call bullshit on your brain and start to choose your emotional responses.

This is a hard one to deal with, and you will experience setbacks, but you are capable of overcoming this and improving your outlook on life. I wish you the best of luck, and know that you have the unconditional support of at least one stranger who believes in you.

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[–] physicscat 0 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago 

  1. Stop caring what other people think. People are idiots. Insecure idiots.

  2. Remember that all over the world there are people struggling with malnutrition, lack of clean water, war, torture...etc. perspective can do wonders.

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[–] ThisMachineKills 0 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago 

I always find it easiest to view things as if they're happier to a 3rd party.

Like think every day, if I were reading this in a book or watching it in a movie, would I care about what was happening. So if someone says something negative about me, I'd just be like "well that is certainly something, but I'm going to work on resolving the main plot."

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