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[–] 3217196? 0 points 1 point (+1|-0) ago  (edited ago)

I'd suggest a few options, I'd go with one which suits your personality fundamentals to make the transition easier.

1) Fuel your ego and build an arrogant but strong sense of self confidence as armour. (Do more activities and incorporate it into your sense of self. You only get hurt if you believe the criticisms are true.)

2) Let go of your ego and your attachment to your sense of self and there is nothing left for others to hit. (i.e. Meditate etc, Buddhism style.)

3) Grow a strong sense of humour and enjoy the banter. (i.e. Hang out with some Australians for a few years.)

Ultimately all solutions require you gaining more experience in the world. So maybe just start there and see where you end up. (Such a question strongly suggests to me you are young so just keep putting yourself out there and grow from the experience.)

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[–] Sosacms 0 points 1 point (+1|-0) ago 

Two concepts i use.

It is what it is. If it wasn't, it wouldn't be.

I am who i am, if i wasn't me I'd be someone else. If i want to be someone else, i should change me. If i don't want to be someone else, then I'm the me i choose to be.

If someone calls me something that is true, then that's no more insulting than looking in the mirror. If it's something I can change, then it's my fault it's true not theirs. If it's something i can't change, then i can't change it so why worry.

If what they say isn't true, than it's no more insulting than calling me a purple pregnant unicorn.

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[–] NorBdelta ago  (edited ago)

A therapist or psychologist would recommend exposure therapy, gradually expose yourself to increasingly whatever you are sensitive to levels. You will eventually become indifferent. This is how pol operates with the antisemitic jokes, etc they are designed to deter those who are unable to talk the hard talk as it were and the jokes themselves immediately deal with overly sensitive people. It is a mindset, accepting that there are things out there you do not like is the first step, being sensitive to those things does nothing to their existence.

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[–] angry_voater ago 

can't think of any advice right now but i hope you find some help with this OP. i can say from personal experience that this quality will fuck you up in the long run.

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[–] baneofretail ago 

Look at yourself in a mirror and say the most hateful fucking things you can think of at yourself. Punch yourself in your face if you get upset. Negative reinforcement and how I got through school.

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[–] SecularPenguinist 0 points 1 point (+1|-0) ago 

I used to be that way too. I'm not exactly sure what the catalyst was but at some point I came to the realization that I'm confident with who I am and the only other person that has any say whatsoever is my wife.

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[–] escapefromredditbay ago 

have you considered, simply not giving a fuck? i mean, not in not any harsh way whatsoever, i get that somethings can rub certain people, but, the world will have its assholes.