[–] septopus 0 points 1 point 1 point (+1|-0) ago
According to 'science!' we can detect lies like that. Still, your point stands. That line item of safe sefe exists in a huge cloud of uncertainty. Depending on the value of the relationship (I measure value in happiness, welfare, and personal ascension/growth) I could see myself saying see ya to at least 1 person in my past had I clearer vision, but in general naw. Risk taking that pans out ends up being forgivable. That is the same flawed logic that drives the 'it wont happen to me' shit, so its admittedly tactically/logically less readily defended. I brought up the line item as part of an honest discussion.
[–] ValkyrieHerja 0 points 1 point 1 point (+1|-0) ago
I'm not talking about the resulting outcome, maybe he doesn't use protection and doesn't catch anything. That doesn't excuse taking the risk.
[–] septopus 0 points 1 point 1 point (+1|-0) ago
I think I accounted for that in my previous posting. That is where logic/goals served and the psychology of understanding and and accepting the threat come in. I cannot argue to 'win' on that line item. It does not fall into reason well and is hard to figure out a cost benefit analysis for all situations.
If I found myself in that situation with my current GF, which is highly unlikely, I do not believe I would end the relationship.