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[–] septopus 1 point 0 points (+1|-1) ago 

I've been in monogamous and open relationships. I've never dumped anyone for cheating on me inside a monogamous relationship because it's not a line item I care about. I've been dumped for. It's not about justifying my existence tho. It's about the actual idea. When you love someone you love them. Period. One must thing logically; what is a trespass? What did it deprive you of? Someone I am seeing banging someone else has deprived me of what exactly? Love to me is the concern with another person's welfare and happiness. Inside that I feel a sense of compersion at the happiness of someone I love. Jealousy is not love imo.

There a millions of people of of various types. Its not hard to find someone who wants a monogamous relationship if that is what one is looking for.

You say you dont ruin a relationship by cheating. I say you dont ruin it because someone cheated. I dont magically stop loving someone, or lusting them, because oh lordy they shared an intimate emotional or sexual experience with someone else. It seems pitiful to toss love away over such a non-starter.